Just FYI: when oral sex dies, the relationship dies. It isn't right or wrong, good or bad. It is however true. So, if it's a chore or something you don't like doing you should get that out of the way well before marriage. Apologies for stating what every guy knows.


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Oct 12, 2017 at 3:46pm

I always give oral to the ladies.

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Oct 12, 2017 at 4:05pm

This may also be true for women. If the oral is crap, the relationship is too.
Also, dudes, if you're not working your ass off, they're faking it. It's not as easy as it looks on tv.

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Monte Zoomer

Oct 12, 2017 at 4:30pm

Fellatio or cunnilingus?

I know my S.O. hates getting cunnilingus but the other way round, well yeah, that works.

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Oct 12, 2017 at 4:45pm

I feel like this is waaaaay more true for woman. Bottom line is, give a little folks! And for the love of god men just FIND THE CLITORIS SHE IS NOT HIDING.

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Oct 12, 2017 at 5:32pm

Totally agree the same applies for the ladies. Settle in boys and do it right.

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Don't get me started

Oct 12, 2017 at 6:09pm

I'm SO sick of hearing guys whining about not getting enough blow jobs! Especially when so many of you seem to think it's your god-given right to have it, regardless of the circumstances. Ask yourself the following questions: 1) have I cleaned myself properly so that the person who's about to stick me in their mouth won't be gagging from the stench or taste? 2) have I taken the time and effort to trim up the bush so that the person won't have to search for it and also gag on numerous pubic hairs? 3) do I expect the person to go down on me for a very long period of time, and do I think it's acceptable to hold their head down forcing them to gag or not be able to breathe? And finally, 4) do I reciprocate by spending equal time devoted to her oral pleasure? If you're answering no to questions 1, 2, or 4, or yes to question 3, then quite possibly you have the answer to your dilemma. Guys, please remember that what you see in porn movies isn't real life! Most women don't enjoy being physically tortured while giving head. Swallowing large quantities of cum or having it sprayed all over our faces isn't something that most of us genuinely want to do. Try putting yourself in the other person's shoes before you judge. Oh, and for the comments sure to come from all the guys talking about dirty vaginas, etc, obviously the cleanliness thing works both ways, so don't get your boxers in a bunch.

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Oct 12, 2017 at 6:45pm

Maybe it is a great time to explore each other's bums. Internal and external stimulation can be heavenly.

Either way talk. Tall about the type of sex you like, why you like. Take classes. Listen to podcasts. Learn not about sex - different ways to explore your preferred sex.
Communicate. Learn. Explore.

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Oct 13, 2017 at 12:45pm

Another faux pas would be dudes holding back for ages when you're down there, then finishing in 2 minutes or so for the P to V action. Second to the hygiene thing, that's a big reason visits to BJ town slow down (in my opinion).

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@don't get me started

Oct 13, 2017 at 1:07pm

You make valid points. I don't agree that oral sex should equal force of any kind unless force is mutually desired (it sure isn't on my side, but I have had a partner that absolutely wanted that and it ended the relationship). The hygiene efforts you mentioned I agree with completely. I originally wrote this from a guys perspective for 3 reasons. I am a guy. I have met women who absolutely do not want cunnilingus (a deal breaker for me). No guy I have ever talked to about it (believe me we talk about these things and probably equal volume that women do) has not wanted more oral sex.

Treating oral sex as a reward or a chore or something to get through - from either partner - is likely to spell the end of a relationship. People hate on that plenty but I think it is fact. For those who just don't need or want it that is great for you. I am betting that group of people is predominantly female and from what you are saying guys are also to blame for that. I accept that.

I would add a detail here -- if you were getting great oral sex and it dries up (sorry) that starts the downward spiral. Perhaps if it was never there or seldom there it would not be an issue. The post marriage "end to oral" is quite common and I still think it does not bode well for any relationship that goes that way.

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Oct 13, 2017 at 3:48pm

Well......My wife was face raped by a boyfriend in her teens in front of other people and was just not interested in oral sex when I met her.

Now you sensitive youngsters under 50 here better hold onto your hats because we're talking senior sex here now. If you can't handle that, stop reading.

So here we are 44 years later and she has slowly come around to some oral sex, at least on the giving side, and due to uterine health issues intercourse is painful, so sex for this horny 64 year-old guy is a blowjob once a week and occasionally twice.

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