Woman and Money

I have to say I find it a real turn off when I see a woman increase their attention and affection once they understand how well off I am. This doesn’t just come from “obvious” gold diggers either. Professional “independent” woman seem to be no different. I have a circle of male friends that are well off and we all notice this, and to be frank it’s getting a little tiresome. It’s a huge turn off, and it shows a predatory nature in woman I think we new need to socially address.

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Nov 5, 2017 at 9:13am

I think you'd be surprised by how many men flaunt money on dates to try and impress. Like literally hold up a wad of cash to my face, tell me their income, list their assets, etc. I feel bad for them because they must think it's the only thing they have going for them and it's also a turn off. Unfortunately, I usually get dumped for not showing an interest in their money because they don't know how to relate to me in any other way.

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Two Way Street

Nov 5, 2017 at 12:16pm

I hear you, I do, and you're right, it sucks when that happens. But please understand it's also a two-way street. I'm female and I can't count the number of times I've been approached by a guy (or have gone on a first – and last – date with a guy) and the only thing he talks about is how much money he makes, how awesome his car is, all the expensive vacations he's taken, how big his house/townhouse/condo is, how much money his suit/shoes/clothes cost, the fact that he's thinking about buying a yacht, yadda-yadda. Like Peter Gabriel's "BIG", you know? I never know what to say. "That's nice"? "Congratulations"? "Not a hooker/gold digger/trophy, thanks anyway"? If you're an attractive woman, weeding out the guys who are just looking for arm candy or trophies to show off to their friends can be just as big of a challenge as you and your well-off friends have avoiding women who prioritize your financial prowess over your personality. At least, I assume so – I can't speak for you; I just wanted to tell you about the other side of the coin.

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See our perspective

Nov 5, 2017 at 1:33pm

We're not predatory. We're fed up of rationalizing relationships with losers who use the excuse of living in an expensive city to live in their parents basement and stay in school for an education that won't get them a job. We're attracted to men that are fiscally responsible, have made sacrifices to get to where they are and are not ashamed (hopefully somewhat modestly) of their accomplishments. Just like us.

Same for everyone

Nov 5, 2017 at 2:00pm

I'm a woman, and most men don't pay attention to me or take me seriously... until I tell them about my education, work, family and connections. I've met a fair share of male gold-diggers. People are people no matter their gender.

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Trevor

Nov 5, 2017 at 2:11pm

I agree 100%. However your request to socially address this issue would be denied due to the politically motivated feminist movement.

Why would anyone down vote this when the OP when men with money know its true, maybe we're the only ones up voting it?

Your posting shows your clueness

Nov 5, 2017 at 5:09pm

Men have always sought out the best female they can get (unless they feel they don't deserve that)... does that make them "predatory? Well likewise have women (esp back when they were totally dependent) sought out the best they can get (again, unless they feel they don't deserve that).
Add to that the fact that those women might be planning to have a kid or two so since those "professional" & independent women are used to living well off, they hope to pair with someone who can support them during the times when they are having these babies.
And in Vancouver you can't maintain mortgage payments & other necessity bills on less than a professional or well-paid trade career.

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Snigger

Nov 5, 2017 at 8:15pm

"predatory".....you are hilarious!

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It's not just women!!!!!

Nov 5, 2017 at 9:26pm

I'm absolutely sick of reading all these whining posts from men about how women are only about the money. I suggest that if those are the types of women that you're meeting, it has a whole lot to do with where you're meeting them and what type of woman you're attracted to. I know so many women, myself included, who happen to be completely uninterested in whether or not a man is wealthy. We're also beautiful women (not a brag but simply the truth!) who are professionally employed and quite capable of looking after ourselves. I've met several men who are very interested in being taken care of by a woman. Lots of men as a matter of fact, who not only actively seek out women who have a few bucks, but who brag about being "kept". This has been going on forever, by both genders. If you genuinely don't want to meet women who are mostly interested in your bank account, perhaps you should be asking yourself what it is that YOU'RE doing to have this be such a common problem for you.

Look to history

Nov 5, 2017 at 9:45pm

Maybe they are not being predatory. Maybe they are interested in other successful people. Maybe they are responding to patriarchy in a cliche manner. Patriarchy is the problem here. It makes life worse for everyone.

Anonymous

Nov 5, 2017 at 10:44pm

If that's your biggest concern, be bloody thankful. Women have to worry about actual predators, and our safety and lives when dating. Just look at the rates of rape, homicide by partners as well as domestic and emotional abuse. Yes, I'm a survivor, and I'm not alone. Plenty of good women out there that simply want a partner that loves them and respects them, but that's few and far between. Men chase pretty young things, and pretty young things foolishly chase men with money. Both parties are seeking out something in the other that doesn't result in finding a partner of quality and substance. It's more of a transactional relationship.... How often have you seen a well off man that didn't have a young model type on their arm? I'd be more hesitant with someone well off as I'd assume they'd trade me in for some young twenty something, are out of touch with experiencing the real world, and overcoming and understanding adversity and the plight of others. There are many of us that don't come from a place of privilege, and struggle to get by, but interestingly it's the people I've seen with so little to give that have the biggest hearts.

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