Women’s intuition failed me

It’s been nearly 18 months since you ghosted on me after a whirlwind but real romance. It wasn’t like we were living together but you had taken my heart. And for the last 1,5 years I’ve been searching for it. Is it in Philadelphia with you? I’ll come get it. Or did you throw it off the Capilano bridge because you found another woman’s there? I need it back. My heart/gut tell me we’ll make our way back to each other but I’m also not an idiot. I know that my gut is wrong on this one. Knowing that throws off my whole centre and it’s all because you aren’t man enough to apologise for what you did and I’m too upset with myself to let it go.

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Way time

Nov 14, 2017 at 8:14pm

To let this go. Don't waste another minute, it's history.
Move forward.

@ Way time

Nov 14, 2017 at 9:54pm

If only it were that easy. Just poof! Let it go. Poof!
Right.

Worthy of more

Nov 14, 2017 at 11:03pm

I feel this so much. Been there many times and currently nursing my ghosted heart. This is what I know... every day you wait for him to return is another day he's blocked you from finding someone who will love you back. Every time you think of what could've been, you stop yourself from seeing new possibilities.
It's so comfortable to get wrapped up in the fantasy but the reality is he is gone and your life is on hold for a day dream.
Be happy for that moment of romance, it's hard to come by, but not impossible to find again if you stop allowing this man to control your heart. Let him go and set yourself free.

Chamber of secret regret

Nov 15, 2017 at 1:29am

Has it really been that long? Time certainly can play tricks. How deep would you say that chasm is? Tell you what- meet me at 5th Avenue and we'll do one end to the other...

Well at least...

Nov 15, 2017 at 12:10pm

so far you haven't resorted to vindictive behaviours....making false allegations because you're butt hurt.

Why

Nov 15, 2017 at 12:49pm

Why do you frame this in a way that it's their fault? It didn't work out, whatever the reason, they owe you nothing now. 1.5 years wasted. Really. Move on.

Me too

Nov 15, 2017 at 3:55pm

It hurts like hell. I have been grieving a similar experience for nine months and am still not "over" it. There is something particularly cruel and cowardly about ghosting someone who you know is in love with you. It would almost be easier if they were actually dead. I would rather be straight up told the truth than be abandoned like that. I know your brain says "get over it", but your heart still hurts. Be gentle with yourself. I have decided to start "dating" myself instead. Most of us could stand to cultivate more self love. Sending a hug :)

@well at least...

Nov 16, 2017 at 3:31pm

...and I won’t. I’m an adult who communicated directly not some hormonal high schooler.

45 9Rating: +36

@why...

Nov 16, 2017 at 3:37pm

...because it is his fault. I’m framing that way since the reason I’m framing it that way is it didn’t work out because of his ghosting. And I’m owed an honest apology. I’ve not “wasted” my whole life but doesn’t mean I still don’t feel empty in the space he used to be.

@me too

Nov 16, 2017 at 3:38pm

<3 thank you

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