Is it hard to date in Vancouver?

I've never been to another city and lived there. I have no idea if it is actually harder to date in this city. I am moving soon. As a guy, do I have anything to look forward to?


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Feb 24, 2018 at 12:32pm

No, there isn't. Vancouver is a dating wasteland. Stay where you are. Haven’t you read the news? With the terrible dating scene, the housing affordability situation and the low wage jobs that won't cover the cost of living here, there is no reason why you need to move here.


Feb 24, 2018 at 1:31pm

I feel like many people struggle with depression here due to the cloud cover so that does affect people's motivation to meet others. I also feel like life is such a grind here for many people just trying to get by, there's not much energy left over.

Woman here

Feb 24, 2018 at 4:15pm

I had hard time. I look fairly conservative and average. But I kept getting interests in friends with benefit situation. Which I thought was weird because I didn't think my outwardly appearance attracts it. Plus due to inexperience, other half of the time I was so incapable of picking up hints and as soon as that happens men shied away. I say come, date, be genuine and if you are interested in someone show and be vocal that you're interested in something more substantial than ongoing sleeping around. Now I'm happily settled with a guy who showed just that. Good luck, because people do end up finding someone. :)


Feb 24, 2018 at 4:35pm

Vancouver has been destroyed by waves of overseas/Chinese investing, PC culture, and is pervaded with the negativity from the downtown eastside. To say nothing of the high rents and crappy weather that gets people down.

Look, I'm not saying it's a bad place period- it's a wonderful place- that's why everyone wants to come here. But... it's because of that that prices are so high, and it just completely kills the experience of living here for like 90% of the people here. So, unless you're making a LOT of money, and are ready to brave the pervasive lack of openness and high levels of distrust out here, to the point where you can barely look at a woman in public without feeling like some kind of creep, I would highly suggest you just keep it to visits. I've grown up here almost all my life, I've lived in other cities, and it's just finally gotten to the point where I'm totally sick of it. Living here is like marrying an abusive partner and having stockholm syndrome. Unless you're a millionaire or have a corporate job lined up, you're going to be barely getting by on rent out here. And even then, you probably won't be able to afford a good place out here. Prepare for the squeeze. Want money for outdoors activities and dating? Good luck, it's going to rent, food, and transit. What little you have left will be put into buying weed, netflix, and craft beer in a subconscious attempt to self-medicate and meet other people your age. Everyone is miserable. Except for the people that have divvied up this place, and are systematically shutting down anything that even remotely has character and culture (Rio theatre, anyone?). Even then, if you're even slightly worried about public safety, you're going to be constantly looking over your shoulder no matter where you are out here thanks to the downtown eastside. It's like nothing you've ever seen.

Also, consumer culture out here is especially shallow and disgusting. You get the assorted hipsters and yoga cultists that masquerade as having environmental/spiritual concerns, but it's really just shallow urban wealth flaunting itself.

Yeah, I'm bitter... Look what Vancouver has turned me into. I'm getting out of here while I'm still young. I've wasted enough time. Whatever you choose, I wish you well. Just know that this place is NOT the best place on Earth, no matter what they say. This place is a haven for narcissists.

If you are a soulless player

Feb 24, 2018 at 6:29pm

Come on over.
You’ll fit right in.

Runaway Train.

Feb 24, 2018 at 7:20pm

This town has an epidemic of gold diggers in it so if you're rich then you will live a very rewarding life here.

If you're like the 95% of the blue collar men here then you're life will a complete hassle. You will be judged on your income then your degree and if you own a property by most women here, there are exceptions to this rule but aren't there always. ?

Beware of the myth that is Vancouver. It's a ghost town on Weekends anywhere you go, just a bunch of men partying till sunup looking for a date. The ratio is usually ten men to one woman because most women stay at home and surf the web looking for love until July comes but complain eleven months of the year round that Vancouver has no good men here.

There are actual dating coaches (All single) telling people how to meet others in public.... Like honey needs advice on how to attract a bee...

It's pathetic here but HEY!


All are bored.

Almost always

Feb 24, 2018 at 8:00pm

In the first minute she'll ask what you do and where you live,to ascertain socio-economic status to decide if you are worth talking to..

just a man

Feb 24, 2018 at 10:38pm

It depends. Are you a hot, tall, rich guy? You'll be fine then, lots of women will trample to date you.

wherever you go...

Feb 25, 2018 at 4:46pm

...there you are! I'm a woman who has lived in many cities and a few countries. While there are cultural differences that influence what is considered 'appropriate' in different countries, dating is dating! If you are open and friendly, you'll meet people. If you find someone with whom you are compatible, you'll have a relationship. Be open to adventure and love, and adventure and love will find you!

Life is what you make it

Feb 26, 2018 at 7:18am

You can believe the whiners and haters that populate this place. The happy ones who are dating, getting out there and enjoying life in this city -- they aren't here.

Real story is as a straight male with a job you'll have lots to choose from. The city is a bit of a gay mecca, leaving straight women lonely. If you don't have any hygiene issues, can hold a conversation, are respectful and somewhat interesting, then you should have no problems meeting some of Vancouver's incredible natural beauties.

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