No Seconds

A few weeks ago I went out on a date with a woman and things went well, we both ended up at my place. She said she had a fun time and I did too, I wanted to see her again but then something happened. The first night we went out she insisted on going dutch. I was fine with this, is she wants to pay her end of the bill that's cool. I don't hold any ill will and thought it was great that she didn't rely on guys to pay for her. But then for the second date I was going to have her to my place and cook. I'm a good cook and had planned a nice starter, main and dessert, wine too. Late in the day she messages me saying she might not be able to make it as it will be a $40.00 taxi ride each way. At first she was hinting that I should pay for some and when I resisted she came right out and asked. This really took me back, I didn't ask her to kick in for 50% of my grocery bill for the meal I planned, or for the bottle of wine. That's being a good host to me. And the same I wouldn't arrive at someone's house and ask them for taxi fare, as an adult I find that I'm responsible for myself. So the end result is she got pissed and the date didn't happen. I'm not so upset, but I find it strange to ask something like this. Am I missing something? Not as woke as I thought? Or is this woman a little nuts?


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You dodged a bullet

Feb 23, 2018 at 11:58am

Jeebus??? Who decides to take a $40 cab ride and asks their date to pay for it? That is nuts. If it is snowing too much to take transit then reschedule the date. If she can’t or won’t take transit she needs to buy a car. Sounds like princess syndrome. You are lucky it became obvious right away.


Feb 23, 2018 at 12:12pm

She should have told you sooner that she didn’t feel comfortable coming over as it would be so expensive, or she should have taken a bus or something. I understand the fact that it was hard for her to get there, but you don’t wait until the actual date is about to happen to say something.

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Feb 23, 2018 at 12:39pm

A woman


Feb 23, 2018 at 12:44pm

Not nuts, but a lazy ass princess who should've taken the bus.

I think.....

Feb 23, 2018 at 1:15pm

the rules are very different according to which gender you belong to.


Feb 23, 2018 at 1:36pm

If you knew she lived that far away, why would you make her travel so far for a second date. It does seem selfish

I think you're missing your brain

Feb 23, 2018 at 1:40pm

Well I know I wouldn't be cooking someone an $80 meal, and I wouldn't expect anyone to dish out $80 to just for the pleasure of enjoying my illustrious company, especially when she probably would have been spending the entire night with me too. I wouldn't have hesitated to jump into my truck, and pick her up myself, and give her a ride home, or flip the bill for cab fare the next morning if I was tight on time for that day. I guess I'm not that woke as you, but at least I would have been getting laid.

she's not that into you, bro

Feb 23, 2018 at 2:43pm

That's the truth.

You dodged a bullet

Feb 23, 2018 at 2:45pm

She is not an adult if she can't handle her own transportation.

An oldies perspective ...

Feb 23, 2018 at 5:23pm

I would never have thought to spring for her cab fare but I would have framed the date as “I’m cooking dinner for us Saturday night. Shall I pick you up at 6” .....

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