You were rude and invasive from the minute I sat down, and I was merely appeasing your crude commentary while I placed my order with the server behind the bar - a pleasant woman who has served me many times at the local burger-bar. I engaged in chatting with you simply because you wouldn't shut up with the bombardment of random questions, without waiting for or listening to my answers. You were insulting by offering your opinion on the food and drink that I ordered. You were irritating with the "name game" and complete lack of social graces. You were disgusting with the sexual overtones and implication that I was touching you intentionally, when I merely accidently brushed your leg because you were man-spread over three bar stools, so it was nearly impossible to avoid it. You wouldn't shut up while I tried to enjoy my meal. You lamely tried to compliment my hair, but invaded my space when you grabbed my braid. Then you finally crossed the line when I mentioned the gold-medal figure skaters that was about to be shown live on TV, and all you could say was how you "love the skin-tight uniforms so you could see their nipples". So when I then moved to the opposite end of the bar to finish my meal in peace away from you, you harass the bar-server and try to insult me with your comment about "… she'll probably only give you a 3 dollar tip, she's such a b…". I then saw you eyeing the other two women servers' backsides up and down as they walked past you. Look, Harry, NO server nor customer should ever, EVER have to put up with that kind of obnoxious crap! I gave the bar-server $40 for a meal that probably totalled $15, and told her "you keep all the rest for a tip, because you girls should not have to put up with that!". My confession - I so wanted to kick you in the f-ing nuts, but feared my foot would get stuck in the rolls between your tree-trunk legs. EEEEWWW! I went out hoping for a nice meal and watch a bit of the Olympics at my favourite local eatery. Instead, I got subjected to YOU! The reason I stared you down, eye-to-eye directly and intently, was to show you that I will not put up with your obnoxious behaviour. Your face is thoroughly engraved in my memory - I dare you to cross me ever again! Creep.


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Feb 20, 2018 at 2:00pm

That's what happens when men like him aren't getting some. Their repressed sexual energy is expressed in behaviours that often violates social norms. Not surprising given the dating scene in Vancouver. Perhaps "Harry" should be engaging in more productive and fulfilling activities -- like going to the gym, taking a cooking class, or learning a new language. He should work on his manners, too. Therapy could be useful here.


Feb 20, 2018 at 2:26pm

Sounds like the guy had some sort of mental issues...you should really be more tolerant.

Good one

Feb 20, 2018 at 3:48pm

Except, you really should have said this directly to him. I know it’s uncomfortable when guys are so obnoxious but having any conversation at all with him unfortunately gave the bozo reason to believe that you may actually be interested. What I’ve always found works is to simply completely ignore them. If they try to touch you, leave them with absolutely no doubt that you’re not okay with it. Lastly, did he say his name was “Harry” or did you give him that pseudonym?

If Creep reads this forum..

Feb 20, 2018 at 4:26pm

He will be salivating from happiness at your 'telling him off'. Trolls LOVE getting a rise out of people. Saying you're staring him down to let him know he can't cross you, you just leave him wanting more. Ignore these idiots. People need to understand that concept.

@If Creep reads this forum..

Feb 20, 2018 at 4:54pm

Actually, I think this "Trolls LOVE getting a rise out of people" is something that people use to 'explain away' behavior, because otherwise they would have to admit that there are more types of people than they can fathom. Or it says more about the individual making that determination, that "pushing buttons" is a bad habit they have, and they accuse others of it.

Speak no evil, hear no evil, think no evil, be no evil.

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@ Good one, and @ Leonardo

Feb 20, 2018 at 6:33pm

His name is Harry - learned from the "name-game". As for your suggestions - done and done! ;-) I left as quickly as possible after staring him down, and followed up with phone call to manager whom I know well. And no - no mental issue here. I am too perceptive to hurt vulnerable people. The guy was simply drunk and obnoxious to those nearest. As for "salivating for more" - okay you are gross, too. You weren't there, looking into the creep's eyes, and watching him cowardly turn away. I was. He got the point - trust me! >:-|


Feb 21, 2018 at 7:32am

"I then saw you eyeing the other two women servers' backsides up and down as they walked past you. Look, Harry, NO server nor customer should ever, EVER have to put up with that kind of obnoxious crap!"

Women shouldn't have to put up with...being looked at? Sorry, not everyone wants to play your BDSM game where we have to avert our eyes or Mistress whips us.

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Feb 22, 2018 at 1:45pm

But it's ok to wear makeup and heals to rev up mens sexual urges for more tips just not act on them because even though the store says nail this it's not hardware they're selling.

Wait until makeup and heals are banned from the workplace and public as it will be deemed sexually aggressive and that is against's women's wishes. The same rules stated above will be ushered in by women. I bet a hundred on it.

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Feb 23, 2018 at 2:10pm

This guy was brought up with bad parenting, or the absence of parenting. The example of men and women interacting with each other starts at home with the parents.

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Call the universe

Feb 24, 2018 at 10:35am

OMG one guy was drunk and staring.


Cased closed Women rejoice!!!

So glad I never got married.

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