Rape in marriage?

posted February 8th, 2018 at 12:37 PM

That's what I've been wondering about. How can it be called rape when you have married the person, and in a sense gave him that part of you. But there have been many times where I didn't give that part - I explicitly said no several times in a night. Sometimes so much that I chose to sleep on the sofa, remain with the kids so that I could just be "alone" sleeping, regardless of the comfort. There were many times where I felt violated and was so angry that I had trouble sleeping. Why did I need to put out every night just to be able to sleep in my bed? Why can't I just sleep in my bed w/o being bothered?

25 Comments

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Feb 8, 2018 at 12:46pm

"I don't feel like it tonight" is perfectly legit.

"I don't ever feel like it, it bothers me" is grounds for divorce.

Another

Feb 8, 2018 at 2:13pm

I have been in that same situation. Sex being initiated even after saying no several times beforehand - - in most cases it's because I am not feeling well but somehow in the night my partner manages to put himself inside me and I am literally lying there lifeless. How does someone who loves you not sense your discomfort and lack of participation in sex? Blows my mind. Seems like a lot of women experience this.

@another

Feb 8, 2018 at 3:31pm

Your partner is raping you. This is not acceptable. Call him out and leave if you can. Or rape his ass in the middle of the night and see how he likes it.

That is

Feb 8, 2018 at 4:23pm

F@cked up. Your husband is an asshole of the highest order and needs his ass kicked.

proof positive.

Feb 8, 2018 at 5:26pm

The have already studied this long ago but women lose interest in sex more so then men and its usually husband who suffers in silence. When simple biology takes over the man gets blamed for having un met needs met by another willing adult. . Amazing society we live hey.

Pity the wife who has a husband that still finds her attractive and wants to keep a relationship alive said no man ever.

My grandmother...

Feb 8, 2018 at 6:02pm

... had a long and happy marriage. Her secret was putting out every night! She explained that if a woman isn't willing to do this, the marriage cannot last.

@proof positive

Feb 8, 2018 at 6:05pm

Ya, poor men must "suffer in silence". Having sex with someone who is unconscious, uninterested, sick, tired or whatever, is RAPE; it doesn't matter if they're you're partner and it has nothing to do with "attraction" and everything to do with power and entitlement.

If you can't fuck your husband

Feb 8, 2018 at 8:01pm

It's likely he just sucks at sex or isn't putting enough effort into arousing you. Men need nurture and part of that is sex. It's not that he just needs to get his rocks off if that's the case he should do it himself) it's also about wanting to satisfy his woman. Let him feel wanted.