You write in here about how it’s actaully women who are the main abusers and how unjust it is that resources are spent helping them. I agree mothers can be abusive towards their children (male and female) but you don’t have to tear down the known fact that women are far more likely to suffer abuse to make your arguments for more care for men. We need more care for men, for sure. But the problem is not caused by caring for women. You seem to need compassion, so I urge you to show compassion for others, men and women, who have also been abused. Your anger is toxic to your healing, and you’re not going to “win” the who-is-really-abused contest on this page.

We hear you brother. But good luck fighting the patriarchy... mysandry is the new abuser. The sad thing is, men in society will eventually lash out, and it'll be ugly

You mixed up your stats. It is 60-40; female -male. Not to take away from your post but yes, males do experience domestic/psychological and physical abuse from intimate partners along with domestic affairs such as parental figures. The chances of the abuse victim being female are slightly higher (more risk factors exist for a female) but statistically, male are nearly equally as likely (numerically, males are only 20% less prominent than females to be victims).

Statistics are a bad way of presenting supporting evidence. It accentuates a very tipping scale that doesn't always represent the realities of everyday life.

Abuse, particularly in the form of domestic abuse is a tragic incident that has many levels to it. We can approach it, dissect it in almost any academic or non-academic standpoint and still be unable to fully understand why certain individuals are more likely to be perpetrators or victims of domestic abuse. It's not just sexism, power dynamics, racism or socioeconomic standing. IT is not a singular problem. Domestic abuse amongst other issues/concerns of interpersonal interaction and relationships are a product of multiple factors working off of each other. It is incredibly toxic and destructive, I, 100% agree with you.

There are many research articles in the Psychology field that time and time again, illustrate the frustration healthcare professionals have towards the lack of services made available to male victims of abuse amongst other demographics, where services are not extended to or made available.

This is actually a refreshing comment to see, it really is surprising how little this is mentioned in general society. Having experienced abuse ( mainly verbal/ psychological ) from my mother, and from some former girlfriends, I can tell you it is a taboo subject and one that is equally as painful as abuse perpetrated by males.

"women are far more likely to suffer abuse"

There is absolutely no evidence for this. I hate to use a Trumpism, but it is "Fake News." This is only true if you use a source of data that, when convenient, feminists say is unreliable: conviction statistics. Conviction statistics suggest that sexual assault is under-reported and under-convicted compared with self-reported data. But the exact same phenomenon and data exists for spousal abuse, where female abuse is under-reported (many police departments won't even take the report, you get laughed at) and under-convicted.

If you use a more scientific, less legalistic approach, abuse is pretty evenly distributed among a minority of the population: about 10% of the population is abusive, and this is roughly equal parts male and female. Certainly there are _no scientific studies_ showing that 100% of abusers are men, 0% are women. In fact, there are some studies showing that it is more likely for a severely abusive female to have a non-abusive male spouse than it is for a severely abusive male to have a non-abusive female spouse.

"the problem is not caused by caring for women"

If we have $X million dollars to deal with "abuse," and the data suggest men and women are abused at roughly equal rates, then there is no rational argument for giving all of the money to support women. And that's the context of Government budgeting, it's not a limitless pool of money, there is only so much. AFAIK the Government spends $0 on shelters for abused men. There is a huge network of shelters for abused women, tho, for obvious reasons, their locations are kept sort of secret: people fleeing abuse shouldn't have to worry that their abuser finds a list of shelters and shows up at them.

"You seem to need compassion"

See? Thank goodness, I was starting to think the problem was that I was being abused, but no, the real issue is that I am defective and lack compassion. This is what abused men have to put up with. Feminists aren't even shy about it, you can go to state-sponsored (not necessarily in BC) domestic violence websites with two different numbers: one for men who "worry they're abusive," one for women who "need support to flee abuse."

I am not trying to win a contest, tho it is apparent that you are, trying to hector and bully me.

My friend's ex wife use to beat on him and put bits of rat poison in his food every time she was pissed off at him. Glad he left her and married a new woman that's only verbally abusive towards him.

Sorry you are hurting. You are right there is not the same attention to males who are abused in any way. Ignore the judgemental response to your concern. Know there are good people out there. Wish I could give you a hug.

Why are you not attending a men-only men's health circle? I did a quick search online and I found a few in town.

Nowhere in his post does the OP say "it's actually women who are the main abusers". He said, "...the split is something like 60-40 male-female...."

The reason it seems that women are the main victims is because usually there are no police reports on demotic violence against men leading to the 90/10 type of statistic you're referring to. Really sucks but it's true.