Go to church. It's your best bet to find another conservative virgin your age.

read this book for all your answers:
Mark Manson: Models

and perhaps this too
Robert Glover: No More Mr Nice Guy

most importantly, stop making excuses like you did in your post
fyi, the common theme is to "invest in yourself" as the goal, vs getting laid as the goal.

Are where shy people go. Or they go to bookstores, libraries, computer gaming places, bubble tea.

Your problem is super obvious! It's right here, in between "with interested girls I wasn't that attracted to" and "with girls my age I find attractive, they charge $500." You aren't actually interested in women, insofar as women are female people, you are interested in some version of a trophy, probably in accordance with media you grew up on, where every good nerd wins a super model. that isn't how life works, and you need to work on how narrowly you've let attractive come to be defined. You've defined yourself right out, for instance, and that kind of self-hatred ain't sexy.

buying one of those Japanese Sex Robots, they'll pay for themselves in no time flat. Consent may still be a major issue though.

... are almost never single, they're like monkeys, swinging from branch to branch. You don't let go of the branch you're on before you've grabbed another one, do you?

As for your being "fit" but "not athletic," well, hiking isn't really about being athletic, if you're fit but can't hike, I don't get it.

The major issue here is that you work retail, your friends won't tell you this, but it is true. Marriage/dating are ways for women to acquire resources, that's about it. Most men, except those with Mommy Issues, would be quite happy spending their time with prostitutes, which is entirely technically possible---rapid testing could require both johns and prostitutes to be tested, etc. We could make this technologically feasible, but this would cut the stranglehold that women have over men regarding sex.

As for confidence, well, how is your posture? Confidence has to do with how you project yourself into the world, do you stand up straight with your shoulders back? Jordan Peterson's book is popular right now, 12 Rules for Life, and if you're not enjoying your life, it couldn't hurt reading it. He's a Harvard trained psychologist who is making the rounds now by opposing the Neomarxists.

"I regret not taking advantage of situations that presented themselves in high school and college with interested girls"

I'm really glad I took advantage of those opportunities before my lack of desire to make money for a woman became a factor. Sad thing is, you're only young once.

First off, every girl is not looking for "a big wallet or a big dick." There are lots of lovely women in this city looking to meet good guys. You wouldn't know that from the types of comments usually made in these 'confessions' but it's the truth!

I would suggest you keep trying with online dating. The question you have to consider is whether you are just trying to have a fling or if you want to build a longer-term relationship. After you've decided that, start meeting people. Go on a lot of dates with a lot of women. They don't have to cost anything - once the weather gets nicer, suggest a walk on the seawall or visit a park to look at the cherry blossoms. Trust me, girls love that. If you are meeting two or three people a week, you'll find someone you click with.

Don't throw away your first time with someone you aren't into. And don't be afraid to have a spring fling if that's more appealing than a longer commitment. Consider a slightly older woman (you say you're 32, so maybe someone in the 37-42 range) who has a bit more perspective on life and can be a really supportive and engaged partner.

Lastly, I can tell you that inexperience doesn't make you an unappealing sex partner. There are plenty of guys who have a lot of experience and are terrible partners because they rely on their supposed 'expertise' or go by what their last girlfriend liked, or think they're so studly that they have nothing to learn. Be aware of the person you're with. Ask her to show you what she likes. Think of her experience as much as or more than your own and you will be phenomenal.

I have no really helpful suggestions other to say that you need to keep going out with those friends and let the girlfriends see that you are a great guy and then ask them if they know any single girls. And when those dates fail to turn into anything because you have very little experience in impressing women, keep on doing it. You are certainly going to have some fails, these fails are the only way to learn and you have a lot to learn.

I'm approaching 38 years and I remain as single, lonely and virgin as ever. Dating apps, Meetup events, joining a class or group activity... I've tried it all. And still, nothing. The closest thing to a naked girl so far is online porn.

Be aware that women in Vancouver tend to be quite judgemental. If you've been following along here in Confessions, you'll see a pattern: status, wealth, physical fitness, the size of their dick, the car they drive, the neighbourhood they live in, the size of their dick, wealth, and other superficial qualities. Nice, kind and supposedly not "bad-looking" isn't going to cut it in this brutal Vancouver dating scene. Bottom line: if I'm not having any success here, you're probably not going to either.

I suppose I should offer suggestions since you are asking for them:

- Consider looking for women outside Vancouver. Do you want to travel? If so, use this as an opportunity to meet women. Staying at cheap but decent hostels and joining pub crawls and walking tours (often free but with a small tip to the guide), or even hanging out in the hostel's movie lounge, yields opportunities for meeting women. Many men have found success in finding women from out of town; they've either moved away to live with the love of their lives, or the women chooses to move here. And you don't have to go too far: Seattle and Portland are great places to travel to, and the BoltBus can get you there with cheap fares.

- If you're really desperate to marry and procreate, look into a mail order bride. Yes, this could cost quite a bit of money, so start saving up. But be careful if you choose this option: many foreign women use this to take advantage of lonely men so that they can gain their Canadian citizenship.

- Read a book on dating and picking up women. There is a wealth of information online as well, but you need to put your critical thinking skills to use to weed out the bad advice from the good. The good dating advice sites for men put an emphasis on developing your self-confidence, which is great for your own personal growth.

- There are other more sinister strategies to get laid with women, quite often against their own will (e.g. stock up on date rape drugs), but I personally don't recommend them, unless you are so desperate that you're willing to risk getting a criminal record.

Good luck.

“Hot” chicks work out. They take care of themselves and eat healthy. They don’t want a skinny, little, shy boy sitting behind a screen. They want a man who can take control and look after them while being sweet and respectful as well. With the predicament you find yourself in here, your best bet is paying for it because by your description of yourself, you aren’t going to be able to bang a “hot” chick. Find a shy nerd at a library if you’re looking to fall in love. She probably won’t be “hot” though. Also, you start to become more attracted to someone you have feelings for on another level. Good luck!