Not fair

I'm a single straight white male. The same kind that has wrecked havoc on other races and sexes. I don't deny this, I don't deny that being white has given me some privilege in life. How much is up for debate. But yes it is there. However anytime I've perceived some injustice I've been met with the same response. "Life's not fair". My female boss hired another female for that promotion and I have to train her? Life's not fair. I'm not being paid enough? Life's not fair. Someone else is doing better than me? Life's not fair. Got rejected by a woman? Life's not fair. So why is it I have to go out of my way to make life fair for everyone else when it's not supposed to be for me? I'd point out how this isn't fair, but then again, Life's not fair.

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The new environment

Mar 20, 2018 at 4:01am

Dictates that it’s now fair if life’s not fair to you. But it’s not fair if it’s not fair to everyone else.

Missing the whole point

Mar 20, 2018 at 4:26am

A fair life doesn't make for a well rounded person. Life isn't supposed to be fair. It is supposed to be filled with challenges so you grow and carry your knowledge forth to the next generation.

How you step up to all these obstacles is what makes life rewarding but you are right. Life isn't fair. You aren't owed anything.

Fair is a story sold by marketing firms, movies and people who have something to gain by your imagined void.

You sound resentful

Mar 20, 2018 at 7:08am

Listen, "life may not be fair". We(humans) do what we can to make it fair human to human. Life hasn't been and your right never will be fair. This isn't grade 2. I think most humans know it doesn't need to be. Some injustices are definetly more unfair. Living in the "life's not fair" motto, it sounds a bit like an excuse to be less understanding of people who have had it unfair for centuries.
Also, sounds like you think your female boss gave your female employee the promotion because she is female. (Who knows....)
Guess what? That has been going on with men for as long as I can remember. Maybe your female boss gave her the promotion cause its about time a woman was given the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity.
Hope you train her with pride, understanding and patience, not arrogance.

You'll have to...

Mar 20, 2018 at 9:04am

put on your big girl panties and earn 79% of a mans wage for he same job. Put that up your butt and smoke it.....

Anonymous

Mar 20, 2018 at 9:13am

"The same kind that has wrecked havoc on other races and sexes. I don't deny this, I don't deny that being white has given me some privilege in life."

You should. This is simply a theological narrative of original sin and/or intergenerational guilt. Let's see what the Jewish/Christian God has to say:

"...I am the Lord thy God, a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, upon the third generation and upon the fourth of them that hate me" (from Exodus 20:5)

With the demise of Christianity as a public thing, thoroughly Christian guilt-narratives can be imposed upon people, and they cannot really understand what is going on. Or, in the case of liberal/progressive Christian denominations, they are readily primed to accept this garbage, because the liberal Christian denominations are where a lot of this is used in the private sector, white professionals who like to go to Church, hear about "white privilege" then get Forgiveness of Sin from the Priest, so it's OK. So they don't want to give up their privilege, they just want _you_ to give up yours.

I would advise that you reject all theology of guilt as a weapon of social control. Life isn't fair, there is no agreement about what "fair" means, except in totalitarian or religious societies.

The individual is the primary substance. The secondary substances are species and genus. So, for example, you are "Not fair," that is primary substance. Your species is "man." Your genus is "animal." Everything else, is a quantity, qualification, relative, where, when, position, doing or being affected. For a further treatment of this, see Aristotle's categories.

So we properly say "the man is white," not "the white man," because "white man" is not an individual, species or genus. White is, in fact, a qualification or quality. Guilt, again, is a quality of individuals, not of species or genus. Privilege, also, will be a quality of individuals, not of any species or genus.

So is it there, or have you been educated to think that when things are "unfair" it's somehow part of a theology of atonement for your "group's" "original sin"?

Religions are always constituted to empower some class at the expense of another. Don't be their fool!

Wow...

Mar 20, 2018 at 9:36am

Another undereducated whine fest. Good job Georgia straight for furthering the alt right agenda.

I understand

Mar 20, 2018 at 10:14am

This may surprise you but I’m a woman. One of those terrible feminists in fact, having been one since the women’s movement started so long ago. However, that doesn’t mean that I automatically tar every man with the same brush. There are lots of good men out there and lots of good white men too of course. You’re not responsible for what your ancestors or other men may have done. Unfortunately, people who happen to belong to the race or gender (or both) who have been responsible for wrongdoing to other races or genders often end up paying the price for the mistakes of others. “Sins of the fathers” and all that. I’m a white woman and I also must deal with being lumped in with the rest of my race regardless of the fact that I had nothing to do with any of it and my own ancestors were also persecuted in many ways. So I do feel for you and I’m sorry that good men are paying for things that the bad ones have done. Please hang in there and try not to take it personally.

It's wreaked

Mar 20, 2018 at 10:38am

Fuck! it pisses me off when people can't spell

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WTF?

Mar 20, 2018 at 11:06am

Sorry you are in pain and frustrated. I do not understand your post related to being a straight white male. Agree. Life is not fair for anyone. If you got passed over for promotion and deserved that job, I agree that is not fair.

As a female who obtained a business degree and post graduate in Canada, I can tell you that I am paid less than males even if I am qualified. I was harassed in University and now for being an attractive female and doing very well academically. To the point I had to have someone escort me from classes home. I was refused jobs because I might get pregnant. I was not allowed at the business club in my home province, men only. I am a property owner and pay all the bills taken care of myself since 14 , but am constantly reprimanded by others in my community about how "easy" I have it because everyone assumes my boyfriend is paying for everything. For my first mortgage, I was advised to bring my father along so I would not misunderstand anything. I was a finance professional by that point. I was refused information on a property I purchased because they called and wanted to speak with the owner. I explained I was the owner, they required a man to call them back. Continued to send my information to the male who owned it previously. This is all happening live time, in Canada..........should I go on ?????

My own father did not understand till he witnessed many cases of mistreatment.

Not sure a white male would experience the same thing.

Thanks

WTF?

Mar 20, 2018 at 11:06am

Sorry you are in pain and frustrated. I do not understand your post related to being a straight white male. Agree. Life is not fair for anyone. If you got passed over for promotion and deserved that job, I agree that is not fair.

As a female who obtained a business degree and post graduate in Canada, I can tell you that I am paid less than males even if I am qualified. I was harassed in University and now for being an attractive female and doing very well academically. To the point I had to have someone escort me from classes home. I was refused jobs because I might get pregnant. I was not allowed at the business club in my home province, men only. I am a property owner and pay all the bills taken care of myself since 14 , but am constantly reprimanded by others in my community about how "easy" I have it because everyone assumes my boyfriend is paying for everything. For my first mortgage, I was advised to bring my father along so I would not misunderstand anything. I was a finance professional by that point. I was refused information on a property I purchased because they called and wanted to speak with the owner. I explained I was the owner, they required a man to call them back. Continued to send my information to the male who owned it previously. This is all happening live time, in Canada..........should I go on ?????

My own father did not understand till he witnessed many cases of mistreatment.

Not sure a white male would experience the same thing.

Thanks

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