Stop asking

posted March 23rd, 2018 at 10:26 PM

People keep asking us when we're having kids and I joke that the one I have is already a handful (my husband). The truth is, most of our responsibilities already fall on me because he's bipolar and a bit unstable at times, and smokes so much of everything that I would be constantly worried about kid-watching abilities. We love the thought of having a kid in theory, but I just don't think it's in the cards for us in practice. Every day is already some new kind of struggle, let alone the responsibility and stress a kid would add. But I can't really say all that to everyone who pesters us about it, so please consider that the situations of others might not be so cut and dried before you ask the same question that's been getting the same answer for years.

3 Comments

Beyond Rude

Mar 24, 2018 at 12:30pm

You need a good comeback line. When are you getting your own life together?”

My partner and I lost 5 pregnancies, it was brutal. We had to endure that question and also "It must be so easy" because you do not have kids. One lady I just told her, actually it is hell, especially when you lose a child. She was stunned. That shut her up. She actually sat down and realized how awful she had been to her own Son.

Rude

Mar 24, 2018 at 12:31pm

Guess I have had enough of inappropriate people who intentionally like sticking a knife in you. I think it is fine to say " That is really not an appropriate question, it is a personal matter".

Do as I do...

Mar 25, 2018 at 6:03pm

Tell people you're sterile, it makes them suuper uncomfortable and they'll never bring it up again. Then if by some chance you do end up getting pregnant, it can be your "miracle baby" or whatever. It's no one's business but your partner and yours anyway.