Your ex-husband was always working because you had 3 children and you live in one of the most expensive cities in the world. Maybe you should of applied a little foresight? What did you think was going to happen when you brought 3 children into the world?

Don’t get mad because potential boyfriends don’t want to take on three kids from your previous marriage. It’s unlikely your going to find a normal guy that’s going to want to take this on. These guys are not the problem as you state in a very simplistic manner. The simple truth is that biology dictates that most men don’t want to raise a child that is not of their seed. Don’t blame thousands of years of evolution, is it was it is and your angry attitude won’t change a thing.

The right guy won't care if you have three or five kids. I have a 5 year old but before I got married, I dated single moms and now that I'm single, I still do. Focus on you, focus on the kids. The right guy will see you doing your thing and he might want to be a part of all that greatness. Anyone else is a distraction - thank them for making that clear.

Ex husband works ass off to support wife and children that he loves.. wife complains that his being away working "doesn't fulfill her spiritually... "

Now complains even though she knows 3 kids is a lot for a single guy to take on.. someone else's kids at the end of the day...

Maybe date someone unemployed who has all the time in the world to leave you spiritually fulfilled..

Reality check. Get over yourself. Starting a relationship with someone who has three kids is not appealing to anyone. Period. What do expect? I’m not saying you don’t deserve your fucking butterflies (hahahaha....because this is the script for a bad rom-com) but you need to realize most men are not interested in your situation. I wish you the best of luck but seriously, you need to grow up. As a woman, I would hazard a guess that when men look at you they just see dollar bills flying out of their bank accounts.
As for your ex not satisfying your “spiritual and intellectual” needs...so did he change?!? Was it before #1 or in between #1 and #2 or before or after #3? Maybe you both should have tried harder or maybe gotten to know each other a bit better before you spawned three kids.

Typical. At first it's all about how wonderful this person thinks they are, followed by a veiled attack on men who "don't understand" lol

You realize what you just wrote right? You are 28 - Divorced and have 3 kids and your ex was "too busy working" I'm guessing supporting 5 people is a full time job. Also, so young and so many kids. Men run because that is what baggage is. You come with a lot of it.

If a guy comes into your life and you guys are together in common law for 2 years + the court see's him as a father figure and he has to pay support till they leave home at 25 or whatever so yeah guys will run away.

And I have to pay you child support,for kids that aren't mine.
No thanks.

You are not the problem, because they won't risk you, and your baggage, that a court can order them to pay for (even if you left them for working too hard to fulfill you on some level) to be a problem. Doesn't matter if your kids are amazing and are a part of you. Doesn't change the fact that you and your kids are a huge liability.