Scary numbers

If people could speak about their experiences freely without pain, fear or consequences I think we would find out that a huge number of people have been molested, raped or sexually violated at some point in their life.

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Doubt it

Apr 23, 2018 at 10:37pm

Probably many but huge numbers? I don't think so. With the "me too" movement, many people have felt free to talk (publicly, privately or anonymously) about their experiences from the smaller harassments to full-blown rape. As a fairly attractive woman, I haven't had many negative experiences with men in my life. A bit of sexism in the workplace, a few drunken cat calls in the streets, nothing more. I guess I've been lucky, and maybe a little sheltered. Also, I have many female friends and relatives, and there's only one person I know that has mentioned an attempted rape. I think it might be more prevalent in some places such as low-income, at-risk communities. I don't think we should generalize to everyone. Similarly, we often hear about the hook-up culture and how cheating is inevitable in long-term monogamous relationships. That's not what I observe in my acquaintances. I don't think we should generalize, each person's experience is different.

Anonymous

Apr 23, 2018 at 10:57pm

And if some human doesn't sexually violate you, some evil demonic extradimensional hybrid spacefaring entities coming from highly advanced cities deep within our planet's core will, .... right after they abduct you with their flying saucers in the middle of the night.

Many have

Apr 24, 2018 at 8:13am

Just like I can't use my self as an example of what happens to others, saying that you were not sexually abused does not mean many many others haven't been. I personally was abused by my mother's friend's son when I was 8 My first sexual experience was with a 35 year old guy who picked me up on the beach at 14. I was fed alcohol by my friend and left in an apartment incapacitated to be gang banged by a bunch of older guys. And there is more, much more.
I could go on, but just like my experience does not reflect what happened to others, and not being raped or molested does not mean many many others have not been. You are lucky.

No

Apr 24, 2018 at 10:21am

Your inflated hyper-bowl just falls right into the hands of the metoo scam! You’ve been duped.

Forget the #metoo....

Apr 24, 2018 at 12:07pm

I'd say before metoo, about 70% of all women I know have spoke about some sort of sexual violation. Most of these woman are highly educated from well to do families... money has NOTHING to do with it.

@Many have

Apr 24, 2018 at 2:57pm

I never said that since I was not sexually abused, it means many others have not been. I never denied that it happens to others. I only spoke of my personal experience, and those of the women I know. Please don't put words in my mouth. Just like you don't like people denying your personal experience, I don't like people trying to erase mine either.

Like I said, I believe many have but I often see the generalization that it happens to every woman at some point in their life. It doesn't: everyone's experience is different. Just like not everyone is a cheater, not everyone is into casual sex, not everyone is an abuser, not everyone has been abused either. I'm sorry it happened to you and to many other women and men. I'm just responding to the OP who believes the numbers are scary, and I don't believe so.

I'm tired of the gloomy picture everyone is trying to paint: all women have been abused, all marriages end in divorce, everything is doomed for failure, etc. I just want to mention that there are many happy relationships and marriages, and there are women who had happy, non-abusive childhoods, teenage years and adulthoods.

I hope society is moving towards that, and I want to raise my children to grow up in a safe and happy environment. Not sure I'd want to have a daughter if I believe it was inevitable that she'd be violated from her childhood onward. I want to remain optimistic and I believe we should talk about the positive experiences as well, not just focus on the negative.

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