Sexual pathways

posted April 23rd, 2018 at 7:47 PM

Two of the things from my long list of sexual interests I can directly trace back to incidents in my childhood when adults freaked out over small things that imprinted on me an erotic interest. If those two adults were more progressive and didn't react in panic at normal exploration and curiosity I wouldn't be as much of a proudly freaky perv as I am now. I'm not at all resentful but I am aware. It makes me wonder about the people shamed out of their authentic sexual selves. In my case it just added a couple of extra kinks that can be fulfilled with roleplay so I think I am one of the lucky ones. I have a heavy heart for those suffocating underneath repressed sexual expression.

3 Comments

Yep

Apr 23, 2018 at 10:31pm

Then you have the whole 'finding-a-partner-you're-sexually-compatible-with-that-doesn't-think-you're-a-freak-and-maybe-even-enjoys-it" gig. Growing up with a taboo/ageplay/incest fetish was hard enough (I was terrified of my parents finding my history and thinking I was some kind of predator/freak), but opening up to girls about this after a few months is always tough. It's so hard to make someone understand you don't actually want to do the real thing, that the real thing genuinely disturbs and turns you off, etc.

I've pretty much given up on normal dating and just try to meet people through munches in larger cities. Hello, Toronto!

Not true

Apr 23, 2018 at 11:19pm

Not everyone is kinky. Some people are asexual or prefer vanilla sex. For most people, sex is a part of life but doesn't govern their life. It doesn't make them repressed or unfulfilled. I'm pretty self-aware and honest with myself regarding my sexual desires and fantasies. I have a healthy sex life, and I'm happy that I'm not more obsessed. There are many other things I like to do, and I wouldn't be productive if it were the case. Falling in love and lusting after somebody is good for a while but I wouldn't want to be in that state permanently. To each their own.