Why are you going to a semi formal place for a first date? So uncomfortable!

... dress up? Formal dress is something you do after you get to know someone, like at a wedding. I know lots of natives here who don't even own formal dress. Like, I grew up here, my family own a home, etc. I never owned a suit (or "dress pants") until highschool graduation for a photo that a family member really wanted. And after that they just sat in the closet.

The issue is whether you understand the primate mating ritual you expect and how many people have evolved beyond that. You want a display both of status and conformity. Clean clothing, I agree with that, but not the "dress clothing."

Anyway, if you see a man you think is interesting, you should just talk to him. You're already meeting strangers who might be axe-murderers on the Internet, so why not meet people in real life? People who use the Internet to socialize are often...well, it is for a reason...

..it's dating everywhere. A poorly dressed date is the least of your worries, as is an insecure car salesman claiming to be a doctor. Welcome to 'swipe right' culture where people are packaged up in online dating profiles, commodities that you simply discard when something "better" comes along.

1-3 dates a week? Some people don't get 1-3 dates a year...
Any other #firstworldproblems you'd like to share with us?

First of all,as a guy,it's 10x harder to even get a reply or any interest at all on a dating site,so stop whining about getting dates.
Secondly, I have gone out on many dates with women and only a very small percentage were what and who they said they were. Most were 20 to 60 pounds over what their profile said. "Athletic" does not mean muffin tops.

As for your "doctor",if he wasn't a doctor you'd have passed him over. And don't knock car salesmen,I got my start in that line and made enough money in 2 years to buy a business that nets me $250k a year.

that we know how "awfull all those men were" id like to listen to their part of the story

RELAX

I'm a guy and I don't like car salesmen either. kinda pissed me off that they lie and say they are a doctor and that's who we are competing against on online dating.

transition to a gay man....but....then what will you have to bitch about.

I agree with the previous commenter that if he didn't say that he was a doctor, you would have passed him over. It's hard to sympathize with you because of that.
But I do agree that Vancouver's slob culture is truly repulsive. Men will go to formal restaurants dressed like they're lounging at home. It's gross. What's worse is that women decided "fuck it. If they get to do it. I get to do it." Now Vancouver women are often just as slobby as the men! I've seen women out in public wearing pajama bottoms, and when it isn't sleepwear, its the daily uniform of black fucking leggings hiked up their ass or yoga pants.
Crappy fashion in Vancouver is a two way street.