That should tell you all you need to know

I feel sorry for your friend's wife. She married a loser.

It’s not what you would love to do but rather how you act. I’ve got a friend I’d love to bump uglies with (just as bad as diddling I guess) but I never would. However, I’d never tell her either ...

I think thoughts like these swirl around peoples' brains quite often. Spitting them out is more rare. A friend of my ex I found so attractive. When we're all hanging out, all these couples, and we're all saying goodbye and giving hugs, I couldn't handle being hugged by her too long. Drove me nuts.

...but it could be the wife who proposed...