What's wrong with me

I've been doing a lot of self reflection. I've been happy with myself but for the last few years I've found myself falling in love with all the wrong guys who end up treating me badly.. And then once I move on.. They always seem to come around and apologize for the way they treated me.. Sometimes a six months, a year or two later. I don't get it.. They grovel, they ask me how I am, they ask for a second chance, they message me even when they have a girlfriend... I hate being the "what could have been" girl. I want to be someone's "right now and future". I'm beginning to really doubt myself.

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For the long haul

May 25, 2018 at 10:26am

You might want to look into attachment theory. You might be playing out anxious avoidant relationship dynamics. Avoidants often come crawling back to their ex’s And regretting the break up afterwards. I’m just guessing of course but if this is the case you could work at being a more secure type and seeking out more secure types.

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Ah yes

May 25, 2018 at 11:09am

Totally relate to this. All the girls who were so quick to ghost me and ditch me are now all sending me DM's and liking my shit on IG. Fuck em. They had their chance.

Anonymous

May 25, 2018 at 11:16am

They only suck up to you to get in your pants.

Some people never learn, I guess.

Marriage used to settle a lot of these dopey types down.

@ Ah yes

May 25, 2018 at 3:27pm

Wow. You sure think you're hot shit.
But with that attitude, I'd say you're just shit.

Go Get 'Em Tiger!!

May 25, 2018 at 4:53pm

Well, your spidey sense is smart enough to not let you get trapped with someone who's going to treat you badly, so you've got that going for you. I'm willing to bet that there is nothing really wrong with you, other than you are a normal human being with hopes, dreams, fears and some insecurities. You sound fine. I'd worry less about being someone's "right now and future" and worry more about who you want as a partner and then Go Get Them! Peace.

It's twenty...

May 25, 2018 at 5:00pm

Women who ditched me when I was a poor student. I had heard "you're a great guy BUT...." so many times.
Now that I'm kind of well known,with my earnings well known I've heard back from every single one,numerous times on my FB etc.
They had their chance.

Had their "chance"

May 25, 2018 at 10:51pm

We're any of these people who had a chance in a position where they could actually move forward into a relationship?

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I'll tell you what's wrong with you

May 27, 2018 at 9:30am

The fact that you think something is wrong with you is what is wrong with you.
Stop and think. If most of the guys come back, it means that there are something(s) great about you, the problem was probably just that the guys were either too young or too clueless to realize it until later.

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I've been in your shoes

May 27, 2018 at 6:13pm

And now I'm on the other side, with a partner I am so happy and proud to be with. The biggest change for me was putting my own self-care as my top priority. Kind of sounds like that's what you're doing by expecting a good relationship for yourself -- don't second guess that! I know it can sometimes feel like even a crappy relationship would be better than nothing, but you need to keep treating yourself with respect and kindness and leave those losers where they belong -- in your past. You got this!

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