Confused

posted June 24th, 2018 at 1:26 PM

I moved to Vancouver from Ontario about six months ago for work and am having a really hard time adjusting. I have 0 friends here and don't know why. I am nice to people and do a lot of outdoor activities. The people I work with just don't include me in their after work activities. Everyone seems to have these cliques from middle school, high school, and university that they stick with. I helped someone from work move from their apartment and they didn't even thank me and the next day at work they just ignored me. People here seem to expect you to bend over backwards for them but never reciprocate. The other thing that really bothers me is so many people who live in this amazing place don't ski, snowboard, hike, go camping, fishing or do any outdoor activities. Whats the point of living in this amazing place if you don't enjoy the outdoors? I had so many friends in Ontario with basically no effort and I put out so much effort here and I just feel really lonely. I am going to give it another six months and if things don't change I am going to move back.

9 Comments

Listen....

Jun 24, 2018 at 11:21pm

Don't waste another six months, dear.

welcome..not

Jun 24, 2018 at 11:54pm

The west coast is full of entitlement.
No one is friendly.
Everyone is too cool to care.
It is the cliquey-est place.
I am sorry that you came here. Try not to become one of them!

This...

Jun 25, 2018 at 1:40am

...is not an 'amazing' place to live.

Anonymous

Jun 25, 2018 at 4:22am

I found Ontario to be exactly the same as you describe Vancouver...as in "Oh, you must come up to the cottage sometime" translation: You have to either suck up to me or else you're not coming...and btw I just bragged about my cottage which is the only thing I care about to start with.

Anonymous

Jun 25, 2018 at 7:16am

Did you want to go grab lunch?
We can talk about our cities, people watch, have a beer, make a friend, and feel just a little bit better about our place in life.

Those people...

Jun 25, 2018 at 9:46am

are entitled dicks. They have no manners whatsoever.

I'll be your friend.

I'm from the Martimes

Jun 25, 2018 at 11:10am

I get you 100%. It's not the friendliest place at first glance.

Give it a year. You'll meet people. There are lots of nice ones out there.

I will caution you though, not everyone is outdoorsy and connects via that type of activity. Some people simply don't enjoy it, and that's ok. You may want to consider relaxing your criteria on that one a bit and be open to people with all types of interests. Who knows? You may discover new things that you enjoy also.

Dude

Jun 25, 2018 at 12:53pm

There's nothing wrong with you. Trust me, you're sane. What's insane is the culture and attitudes out here. I'm sorry the guy didn't thank you for helping him move in; that's just inhuman. Don't waste your time here, OP. Seriously. There's WAY better places in the world than this. I grew up here, but I'm leaving as fast as my legs can carry me.

Dude....

Jun 25, 2018 at 8:15pm

I bet there's over 100k people from Ont. living here, maybe that's what changed Van City....anyway, you should have no trouble spotting them in a crowd....go say hi.