Fool for love

My ex gf told me that she isn’t happy. Fit, successful, healthy, beautiful, but not happy because she’s 34 and her life isn’t what she imagined it would be. She wants to have a family and she says it doesn’t look like it will happen soon though she’s been with her boyfriend for a few years. She calls me up when they’re having issues because “I’ve always felt like home”. I listen and support while holding my tongue from saying “I want that family with you”. That’s how it’s been the last 3 years while I’ve been single, hoping she will be single again too. Why do I love this woman so much when she isn’t choosing me? Maybe I made my bed when I let her go. It just wasn’t the right time. I want to tell her to be with me and she will be happy... but I don’t know if she sees it.

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Do you really?

Jun 19, 2018 at 8:12am

Do you really want to be with someone who constantly phones their ex? I think that's a red flag. She's got one foot out the door- not someone who is ready for a real committed relationship.
Move on, block her number, you deserve better.

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is this too obvious?

Jun 19, 2018 at 8:32am

Tell her how you feel?

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Anonymous

Jun 19, 2018 at 8:50am

Declare your intentions to her and attach an ultimatum that you're prepared to follow through with.

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Hello!!

Jun 19, 2018 at 11:33am

“I’ve always felt like home” That's your cue, you dope!!

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Be transparent

Jun 19, 2018 at 11:55am

If she likes you, you would know by now. She will forever segment you into the friendzone unless you take responsibility for your feelings. Better to know, than to wait another three years. Take the initiative or play second fiddle.

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OP

Jun 19, 2018 at 4:02pm

Appreciate those who’ve commented and offered support. @betransparent yes I have been friend zoned but I put myself there first. I never meddled with her relationship but it’s obvious we aren’t happy without each other.

@doyoureally she’s not just calling her ex, she’s calling her best friend.

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just tell her..

Jun 19, 2018 at 5:27pm

here is my perspective, as a mid thirties guy..

next time she goes on, tell her you would start a family with her, if you are serious about it..

she will either go for it, or she won't. But at least your true intentions are known, and you will have to regrets you take to your grave- at least you tried, even if she doesn't go for it, you can know you took the chance and were vocal about it. Be direct and strait forward, women like that..

if you wait too long the next conversation could be her telling you that buddy just got her pregnant.... I'd make your move now..

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