My Solution

posted June 14th, 2018 at 5:55 PM

I had been watching internet pornography everyday since I was 12 years old. At the age of 25 I realized that this was having a negative impact on my love life. I mean why go and search for women when your needs were just a click away. Plus you had access to literally a million different women willing to do just about anything on your timeline. So I stopped watching completely and its been six months. All of a sudden I am not so tired and full of energy. Women are smiling at me and talking with me. I got a girlfriend now too. I think it has to do with pheromones or something. I don't smell desperate anymore. I don't view women as sex objects anymore but as real people with emotions and feelings. The internet pornography I think really warped my sense of sex and sexuality. The solution to most guys dating problems is to stop watching pornography cold turkey.

11 Comments

When...

Jun 14, 2018 at 6:15pm

...your girlfriend becomes your wife and has your children the pornography will be waiting for your return when she no longer fucks you.

obviously

Jun 14, 2018 at 6:34pm

written by a woman trying to solve her dating problems.

Public Service Announcement

Jun 14, 2018 at 7:00pm

Written by a woman,for all guys to start dating women.
Gonna be hard,as apparently all men are unemployed drug addicts. oh,and misogynistic animals prowling the streets looking to rape.
Did you really think this will fool anyone/solve any problems?

Tonight I'm searching...

Jun 14, 2018 at 8:26pm

"Turkey Porn"

Amen Brother

Jun 14, 2018 at 9:29pm

I experienced the same thing! Watching it daily literally took away my need/want for woman. It can have a very negative effect on people. And a HUGE LOL to the losers who downvoted you.

Fake as Fuck

Jun 14, 2018 at 9:30pm

This confession was written by a woman.

Anonymous

Jun 14, 2018 at 9:56pm

My last girlfriend was really into porn.

Anonymous

Jun 14, 2018 at 10:07pm

I've been watching porn since I've had a stable unsupervised internet connection, also have girlfriend(and a few before her), also have meaningful relationships with women that aren't based around me viewing them as sexual objects, but instead as interesting people who offer value and insight into my life. I'm glad what you did worked for you, that's really great that you got your life turned around. Maybe abandoning porn was more about abandoning a part of yourself you weren't happy with and didn't even know was affecting you. All I'm saying is, porn doesn't make you view women as sexual objects without emotion and feeling, viewing women as sexual objects without emotion and feeling does that. Your porn consumption just reinforced those ideas.

Better Solution

Jun 15, 2018 at 6:03am

Other people are not you, so do not generalize from you to everyone.

Voyeuristic tendencies do not a douchebag make. Douchy tendencies do that.
There is a LARGE population of women who love to watch, and they watch a considerable amount of pornography. So much so, that there is now a viable genre of porn made specifically for that audience.
It doesn't seem to inhibit their dating habits much. Not that I've heard anywhere.

My voyeuristic tendencies are just fine, and I treat women with consideration and respect. Have done so from the time I lost my virginity, and yes, even that episode was quite civilized.

When men treat other men badly, that's considered normal and almost always passes unnoticed. It's only when that happens in the context of hetero dating that everyone is outraged. Douchebags are very consistent - they're generally despicable and inconsiderate. Their bad behavior is not limited to their dating, nor is it somehow induced by pornography.

These exercises in armchair psychiatry are not based on reality. The bald statement that abstinence is THE solution to most men's dating issues is unquestionably bunk. Much like abstinence-based sex education for teens.