You’re a coward and an awful friend.

You know you hurt her right? Instead of being an adult and telling her you didn’t want to be friends you just deleted her from your life. 13 years. I met you at one of her parties. She always had nice things to say about you and then you go and hurt her like this? It’s been a couple years and she still gets upset and she doesn’t deserve it, you do! You play victim and woe is me on your social media but you threw away a person who would have stood by you through anything. And the sad thing is she still misses you and would do anything to talk to you again. I however know you’re an asshole for what you did and I hope karma comes back at you for the pain you caused someone who had been nothing but loyal to you since the day you met.

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As a deleter...

Jun 20, 2018 at 9:11pm

I have been on the side of the deleter before. It is so hard to realize a friend isn’t right for you anymore. If it was a romantic relationship that ended because it wasn’t right anymore people seem to get that and understand that. When it is friends it is just as hard to end it, and has even greater consequences. This person might very well be an asshole. But also.... maybe they did something that was best for themselves. Maybe the deleted was not as good for them as you think. I ended a friendship because the person was just not changing or growing. I was changing and they just didn’t fit in my life anymore. It was awful. But I am not a bad person because of it. Don’t hold more hate in your heart. All relationships have an end. That is life

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Exactly. Karma.

Jun 20, 2018 at 9:58pm

Maybe your friend got what she deserved. If you believe in karma this is exactly the situation both parties earned.

People disappear for a reason. Obviously this friendship was outgrown. Help your friend process the loss (something people face all the time) and move on.

Are you upset about this happening to you? Why are you so mad over something so insignificant?

Life isn't participatory trophies and expecting people to coddle you. Life happens and you deal.

How is this your business? Just support your friend and get over yourself. You probably have no clue of the dynamic that brought things to this point.

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Self admitted bully

Jun 20, 2018 at 10:10pm

Why would you identify someone as a coward (aka scared) and then wish them a hard time? You sound like someone wrapped up in emotions without acknowledging that a coward won't be coaxed into making amends with anger. You seem to be projecting your own fear of abandonment or offense to this person. Have your opinion about it from your removed proximity but you're clearly not a good friend yourself if you believe that friends are responsible for rescuing other friends from pain since your friend still hasn't moved on in YEARS. What are you doing to heal your friend besides attacking someone you only met a limited number of times.

Get a life.

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Good friend

Jun 20, 2018 at 11:01pm

I know you think you know the whole story, but just remind yourself you’ve only heard one side of it.

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Who has time for friendship?

Jun 20, 2018 at 11:07pm

I have to wonder who these Leisurely Lifestyle people are and how they have so much time and money to socialize or even get bent out of shape about people not wanting to be their buddy.

Some people were dealt hands where friends can't be a priority. Survival is more important than being a good pal and this is a pretty cutthroat city to make it in right now. Multiple day jobs and a creative endeavor or two can eliminate any free time one has. Relationships of any kind demand time. Throw in a kid or two and that pretty much shifts the dynamic. Make one of the friends an introvert and recharge time has taken another chuck out of the clock. These are just a handful of examples of things that demand time that are more important to some people than some friendships. For some a fulfilled life comes with some sacrifice.

Maybe they don't have time, money or space to give someone attention that is reserved for other parts of their life that they're not interested in sharing with just anyone.

No one owes you their attention. If you want someone's friendship you need to earn it and even then they will give you the energy they can afford to give you when they have it. Rent is due. Phones need to stay connected. Food is fun. Extra money needs to be made to fund passion projects. Those projects need to be worked on. Hustling to make things happen comes at the cost of spending time with certain people. Not everyone has the luxury of sitting around and listening to people complain for years over a shitty friend.

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What does friendship have to do with it?

Jun 20, 2018 at 11:27pm

No one wants to be the platonic emotional spouse of another, while pathetically watching their "better half" physically get it from someone else. And no one wants to see their platonic emotional spouse physically get it from another, even though they themselves are physically getting it from someone else. Your friend is an emotional vampire and, an adulteress. You should be the one to tell her that, and that she has to give, in order to take.

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Sounds like...

Jun 20, 2018 at 11:32pm

You only got one side of the story. It also sounds like you should mind your own business.

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@ Self admitted bully

Jun 21, 2018 at 1:11am

A coward isn't another word for someone that is scared. Everyone gets scared, but not everyone is a coward. A coward is someone that allows themselves to be governed by their fear, to the point that it is harmful, detrimental, and possibly even fatal in some circumstances to those around them. Although fear can be justified, cowardice never is, and neither is betrayal.

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@ Self admitted bully

Jun 21, 2018 at 2:29am

Cowards only make amends for their own personal gain, and not because they have remorse, or care for anyone other than themselves. The only way a coward would be coaxed to make amends with someone they've hurt, is if they believe that the one they've hurt would be the best suited to increase their own status and prosperity in life, or even better yet their own life expectancy should anything serious come along that puts them into some kind of painfully horrific mortal jeopardy.

Of course if the coward fails to grow a spine, and fails to make amends with the person they've hurt before such possible events take place... this places the coward into the position of having to beg on their knees. It also puts them into the position of being a slave, and a footstool to the one they've hurt, that is, as long as the danger, or prosperity persists, and also if the one they've hurt doesn't just leave them to their well deserved karmatic destruction.

It doesn't surprise me that the Bible actually lists cowards as the first types of people to be thrown into hell. A person's cowardice will always outweigh, out surpass, and will always come before any bit of moral and selfless virtue they could possibly, but very unlikely possess.

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People who ghost...

Jun 21, 2018 at 9:51am

Are cowards. I don't care how scared you are, we're adults...it takes five seconds to send a note to say "I don't want to talk to you anymore". That's all it takes, then you can delete and block till your heart's content. But it sounds like this person just deleted a long time friend without a word. Sure we don't have the whole story, and this poster seems a little too emotionally invested, but it sounds like this person could have at least tried to say something before tossing aside a long time friend.

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