Single
posted July 21st, 2018 at 12:42 AM
I'm 42, and been single for awhile. It's very hard in my culture and with societal pressure as a woman. I don't want sex or anything casual and refrained from it as I can't do fwb. I'm frustrated with even trying. I don't want an arranged marriage.
Think I'm too old now..... I'm petite, slim, have a career, don't want to be attached at the hip to a guy like so many women. I seem to only get hit on by people not from here. I feel like I'm hideous despite people saying I'm nice, attractive etc.
As a result, I've been single for years. I don't want kids, and I'm okay with not being married, but tough to find an attractive, compatible person that is kind and wanting a ltr. I really miss being held, and just touched though in a non sexual way. I'm not sure how to deal with that though. I feel like such a loser, and am made to feel that way especially by others that are east Indian.
I'm actually considering a male escort, and feel embarrassed saying that aloud Just to be held, and told nice things. I don't even know how or where I'd do that especially being broke. So pathetic reading that aloud.....I read about people renting others in Japan as fake family, fake partners etc. recently and thought that was heartbreaking, but I think it's just how disconnected people are. We all crave love and connection.
I could settle like many women, but don't think that's fair to a guy, but if the guy could sleep with anyone else, but me, would that be OK?
Please refrain from troll like comments. I really need some advice, and can't go to anyone to talk about this.
6 Comments
Post a CommentWish I could
Jul 21, 2018 at 2:59pm
Find someone like you.
Regular
Jul 21, 2018 at 3:00pm
You've posted many, many times about your inability to find a man. If you didn't get any helpful advice in your past posts, what makes you think this time is going to be any different? Remember the definition of insanity.
me3
Jul 21, 2018 at 5:34pm
they have "professional cuddlers"....it's a real thing. google it. lot's in Vancouver, not even expensive, and it's non-sexual.
Craving human touch
Jul 21, 2018 at 5:40pm
It’s a natural hunger to crave being touched. Does your work provide massage therapy benefits? One idea is to get a 1 hour Registered Massage Therapist (male/female; absolutely your choice) and this RMT massage is covered/paid for by your benefits. This may help in your desire for some physical, non sexual contact. Best of luck to you.
Go to Jamaica? Or Europe?
Jul 22, 2018 at 8:44am
And get your grove back just like Stella?
...But don't come back, that would be crazy.
just a man
Jul 22, 2018 at 11:05am
same "confession" was posted a while ago
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