Bad genes

Despite my best efforts( working out, eating well) I've become an extremely unattractive middle age man. The complete lack of attention from women is a lonely experience.


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Aug 19, 2018 at 8:21am

what else do you have to offer besides your body?

14 9Rating: +5

You just have to dress well

Aug 19, 2018 at 9:58am

They don't care about anything else

Lonely in Vancouver

Aug 19, 2018 at 10:25am

You're not the only one. Too many people in Metro Vancouver are living like this. Keep your head up and do you.

15 5Rating: +10

if you mean your face

Aug 19, 2018 at 10:37am

just do what women (and OTHER men) do and get some plastic surgery.
For example, a nose job or laser resurfacing will work wonders.

Or you can just use it as a learning experience and do what a lot of do and stop caring about not getting the superficial attention we got when we were young.

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Leonard MacIllayn, Jr.

Aug 19, 2018 at 11:23am

As a regular guy (and not a Don Juan) I would say you have done two very important things.
I would dare to offer a couple of ideas: be very very clean; be well groomed; refresh your wardrobe. Sneakers are only for the gym or for hiking / running outdoors. Wearing a fleece to a restaurant or a bar is a no-no. A good sport jacket (and a real shirt, not a polo shirt) will always look better, in particular at your age. Baseball caps are for younger people, look for more interesting and elegant alternatives, if you want to wear a hat.
And, hang out with people (including women) in your age range. There are many ways to socialize, the internet can open some interesting doors for you. Best of luck!

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Looks aren't important

Aug 19, 2018 at 11:28am

What gets women's attention is power, status, and money.

Women are attracted to

Aug 19, 2018 at 11:32am

Confidence more than physical looks.
I’m in a similar situation, started hitting the gym hard, got ripped and that improved my self-confidence.
And I notice that translates to more attention from the ladies. It’s all about your own self image.
Good luck!

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Aug 19, 2018 at 5:02pm

you can buy one from a third world Country if you're that desperate.

4 9Rating: -5

If you think you're crap you'll get treated like crap

Aug 19, 2018 at 7:28pm

I'm dating a brilliant but broke, overweight, middle-aged man who is self-employed. He is one of the most beautiful human beings I have ever met and already a lifelong friend no matter what happens in our relationship. I think you need to take a deeper look at your lack of romantic success.
I'm not saying you're a bad or superficial person, but your assumptions about romance in general may need some tweaking.

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Anthropology 101

Aug 20, 2018 at 7:51am

First, stop hating yourself. It's stupid. Everyone's body changes as they get older- your metabolism slows, your job takes time away from your recreation and boom, you put on weight. Now here comes the trick: find a woman the same age as you going through the same thing. You will grok each other.

You are doomed to be unhappy if you think you will attract 20 something hotties like you did a long time ago. You can be very happy if you find a dumpy 40 something who can see your dumpy self and love you anyway.

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