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Having worked with someone for years I thought nothing of opening up my private life as we continued our friendship outside of the workplace. Women often talk about boyfriends or husbands, past relationships and family, their children and of course if they work together they have that in common as well. So I felt relaxed and let my guard down a few years ago but now am regretting it. Finding out more and more about this person in small doses but finding that my personal life revealed over the years is being used to belittle me behind my back at work . In some ways I understand that this is the only way she knows how to compete and that her character or personality must be damaged but she continues the friendship on the surface and so not sure what to do. Over the years our friendship has slowly become only a friendship as she has worked herself through her friends and contacts at work into a unique position and as an individual she is hoping to stand out enough to overcome her professional shortcomings on the basis of those relationships but I am hurt to realize that it seems she is determined to shut me out and will no longer even discuss real work with me. She pretends to work almost in another place for another employer rather than admit she strategically befriended and then betrayed me by portraying me as unstable at work when the truth is that my stability far outweighs her own despite my personal life.

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Aug 15, 2018 at 10:44am

It's why the TV show Survivor tapped into something....it's basically most of our working and social lives.

Ordinary people.

Aug 15, 2018 at 12:36pm

It's amazing how many levels a person can use another person. Directly, indirectly. Using people helps them with their bump for the afternoon. That a touch of superiority to get them through the day and trick themselves into thinking they aren't ordinary. Who wants to acknowledge they're ordinary?

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Aug 15, 2018 at 12:43pm

Someone I worked with was like that too. When I moved to a different department and couldn't help their career they stopped answering my messages and unfriended me on Facebook. It was harsh.

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