Should I stay or should I go

I just turned 28, and am in my first/only relationship. We've been together for 3 years and live together. I care about him so much, but I've been finding myself curious about other guys...Because my bf is the only person I've slept with, or done anything sexual with beyond kissing (I was very timid). A part of me wants to be single for a bit to explore other options. I'm good looking and get attention from other men, and a part of me feels like my youth is passing by. My bf is several years older than me, so he has his own experiences, and it makes me a little jealous sometimes because I don't. He's such a great person and loves me so much, but I admit I have always had an uncertainty about our relationship. I can't have everything though, it's either stay with someone who adores me and treats me well but keep having these feelings of wanting more freedom, or leave him and be thrown into a world of unknown, where it could suck or be amazing. Where is the grass greener?

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The girl he could have chosen

Aug 13, 2018 at 10:34pm

Its not about where the grass is greener. Its about where your heart lays. If it is not 100% with him, if you are worried you are missing out....do you really love him? If you did, why would you need someone else,? Decide what you want and need.

If hes older, hell understand and act accordingly, but be honest, anything else is just shady.

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Cy

Aug 13, 2018 at 11:16pm

Leave him. You don’t deserve him.

Go explore. You’ll learn your lessons.

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Wall

Aug 13, 2018 at 11:25pm

Well aren't you a peach. I say this because you would rather break it off with him to bounce in the laps of other guys instead of just doing it behind his back. I'll level with you, I no longer believe in monogamy due to how I was treated in past relationships. However if you do believe in the "the one" than don't leave this man. If he's really as good to you as you say he is than you're more lucky than %99 of both genders....and the trans community...gotta count them now too.

My point is what you're feeling is natural. You'll always want to perch your hind quarters for someone else. It's a fantasy, you're allowed that. But don't throw away something great because you don't think it's fair that he's slipped it in more people than you. Sex isn't a competition. If you do leave him just to see if someone can set you off like a lawn sprinkler than don't be surprised if he doesn't come running back when you blow your dog whistle. If he has any self respect he'll be long gone. So if you leave him just to see what's out there, remember when you finally settle down again you will still have these thoughts.

I wish you luck no matter what your choice is.

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Please ignore the downvotes

Aug 14, 2018 at 12:18am

They're all old salty men (majority of this place)
Listen to me hunny. YES EXPLORE. If you're truly meant to be you'll find yourselves again but you need to take this time in your life to LIVE you will be so effing glad you did. Please trust me (a total anonymous stranger) but I know what im talking about. What can he give you that anyone else possibly cant? Live. Relationships are here and there and will come and go always! That's life! Its an experience. Go live. You'll begin to resent him and blame him in a year or so. You'll bother be happier. Best of luck♡

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You re a strong and independent women

Aug 14, 2018 at 12:23am

Go ahead and sleep around for a while

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Hope you're not a troll

Aug 14, 2018 at 1:38am

If you're only interested in exploring your sexuality, you can ask your boyfriend for an open relationship. If you're not sure that you still want to be in a relationship with him, then you can ask for a break to figure it out. Of course, there's no guarantee that he will want to take you back after this.

As a woman who's been single for most of my life, I can tell you this: it's very difficult to find someone who loves you, is compatible with you, and wants to commit to you. Even if you're good looking and a great catch, everyone has other options or want to keep their options open. Also, as you get older, there are fewer people still available in your age bracket. If you want to get married and have a family, this can be a problem.

Personally, I'm not into casual sex, and haven't explored much even though I've had the opportunity. I'd rather be in a loving, committed relationship if I could find one. But I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. That's why I'm still single.

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I would stay

Aug 14, 2018 at 1:56am

You may never find that connection again and regret losing him for the rest of your life

It's very difficult to find a connection .... especially in Vancouver!

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Understandable

Aug 14, 2018 at 2:48am

Your feelings make total sense, so ignore the downvotes. Whether you act on your feelings or not isn’t something anyone else can tell you, but I would always suggest that you go with what your heart so. You mentioned how much he loves you, but nothing about the feelings that you have for him? At the end of the day, that’s what it’s going to come down to. If you’re really in love with him for who he is, and not just that he loves you, then I’d say that you have your answer.

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Anonymous

Aug 14, 2018 at 7:28am

yep, go for the "bad boy" then come back and complain

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Anonymous

Aug 14, 2018 at 7:36am

You're better off with what you have.

Okay so you go and break up. Now, suddenly you're competing against 19 year old hotties.

Good luck!

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