I confess that I’m big on apologizing. I’m one of those people who spends an inordinate amount of time thinking. I rehash things I said and did, I recall events and wonder how I could have done things differently in order to change the outcome. I obsess over criticism from others who were involved in the situation as well, wondering if I was wrong and they were right. I play it over and over in my mind; the situation as it happened, what I said, what they said, and trying out various versions of everything to see if perhaps I owe an apology. So many times I’ve come to the conclusion that absolutely I could have made better choices in terms of what I said or how or when, or what I did or did not do. I’ve then reached out to the other person involved and I’ve offered a sincere apology for what I believe I did wrong. To date I’ve yet to have one of those people reciprocate! Not one. I’m talking about situations where I was more than justified in being upset or angry. Situations where the other party (ies) were equally (if not more) at fault for what took place. My apology was, in every single case, either enthusiastically accepted without any acknowledgement of their own part, or else completely ignored. So I’ve finally come to the conclusion that the majority of people have no ability or desire to examine their own behaviour, and find it so much easier to lay 100% of the blame for anything that goes awry on anyone other than themselves. I’m more than willing to be accountable for my own part, but I’m damned if I’m ever again going to offer an apology to someone who has demonstrated a total inability to be accountable for theirs.
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