Marking Territory

Does it make it less awful if you have a child with the person you married for permanent residency? Asking for a friend.

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gimmeabreak

Sep 25, 2018 at 11:04pm

It makes it more awful.

People...

Sep 25, 2018 at 11:43pm

... worry too much about having kids. There's no rules for this stuff, just dive in!

It's not awful

Sep 26, 2018 at 12:46am

You do what you gotta do to be together. If you have to get married to be together because the government leaves no alternative, then do it! We got married because I could only see us here together, or us going to his country to try to be together there (which would have been infinitely harder) - there was no other alternative in our minds. We were going to be together no matter what, and 10 years later I can say for sure it's not awful. Thanks for being so awesome, Canada.

Hey!

Sep 26, 2018 at 12:50am

Quit stealin' mah style, jeez manners!

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Probably

Sep 26, 2018 at 7:05am

more awful if I understand the question.

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Wouldn't be surprised

Sep 26, 2018 at 11:57am

if this was about the user brit asshole I knew years ago.

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The child

Sep 26, 2018 at 12:28pm

Think of the child’s perspective and how that might look for an upbringing.

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Low Rider

Sep 26, 2018 at 6:07pm

Well, most (or at least most vocal) women here seem to think "all men are scum".
Someone may as well get something useful out of the situation. Making a virtue of necessity and so forth.
Go ahead and breed a football club. And by all means encourage her to play with other dudes.
She'll be able to retire on that child benefit. You can get your PR and run away (oh, sorry, that's your "friend"). Canada gets some population growth. The kids get to grow up in "The Best Place On Earth." The local gene pool gets a bit of stirring and some new ingredients.
Everybody wins.
I like to see the good in all things.

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