Not how it should be !

For you.. Even if you could love her right... Like even if you could be the reason she smiled, or the consistency she needed, or the support she was missing… The most her fears would ever allow you to be is “too good to be true”... Because to her, the memory of you that pain is more important than opportunities and possibilities… She’s taken chances before and she just doesn’t have the time to see if you’re different... Because even if you’re incredible, she’ll only see your flaws... And even if you’re genuine; She’ll only see your mistakes... It’s easier to complain than it is to change, so no matter how great you are; It’s just a lot simpler to be scared than it is to step up... And she’s comfortable… she’s having fun... Her friends told her she has time, there’s no rush to find the one... She’s living, she’s not trying to waste time dealing with feelings... So even if you’re what she needs… She’s just not ready for the work right now… And like it or not, that’s just what you have to deal with when you’re dealing with a heart that you didn’t break... So if you aren’t patient and prepared for the long ride, just quit while you’re ahead… Because all she trusts is the game… And by the time you climb that wall, she’ll have already moved her heart behind a taller one...

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Take responsibility

Sep 10, 2018 at 10:30pm

Anybody who close their heart to love does not deserve love.

Anonymous

Sep 10, 2018 at 10:41pm

She's a bipolar waste of time is what you're saying. Thanks for the warning but I already knew that, and that's why I'm not wasting my time on her.

Mr guy

Sep 10, 2018 at 10:59pm

Well I love her. Call me insane, but I'll be damned if I don't try

You contradict yourself

Sep 10, 2018 at 11:29pm

Several times, can't be bothered to list them.
Another contradiction in society,if a guy has feelings hurt,been cheated on,devastated financially,been wrongfully accused of assault etc he's supposed to just "man up" and get back out there and try to please women.

If he doesn't,society and women portray him as a misogynistic creepy loser that no woman would want anyways.

Anonymous

Sep 11, 2018 at 1:34am

I still love you but all rides end.

Cyrano

Sep 11, 2018 at 3:15am

Yes, it can really hurt when you're serious and the woman is not.
Early last year, one came into my life like described here. She even opened the conversation herself and pursued me. Swept me right off my feet. But it lasted only a couple of months. I was completely blindsided - she even bragged to her friends about how amazing it all was.
Texted each other a year later, and she told me she had a lot of respect for me but the timing was horrible.

When she shut me out and walked away last spring, it broke my heart and turned me into a shambling wreck for a long time. I was already very vulnerable when she found me, and this really made things very much worse.
The OP is on point. Doesn't matter how compatible you are and how special it is. If the two of you want completely different things and those are irreconcilable, it can only end in great suffering.
Certainly did for me.
And I hate games. Difficult enough to make relationships work without that.
Leave while you can, before you get discarded. Less damage that way.

Nah

Sep 11, 2018 at 6:08am

When it's right, it's right, and that's when one rushes forward. When it's not, it's not, and then it will never be.

Ever consider?

Sep 11, 2018 at 7:23am

Pyramid design

from a female

Sep 11, 2018 at 9:38am

This happens with both genders.

Guys feel burnt too and put up walls that other females can't get past.

Author

Sep 11, 2018 at 12:10pm

You have every right to expect your partner to treat you with the same love and affection that you shower upon them. And the day you start to believe that you need to do more to win their affection or to hold on to them, that’s the day they’d start to take you for granted. When you look at someone and say you take back that you love someone, how could they believe you.
Effort is a reflection of interest.

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