I grew up poor and from a divorced family. I think I’ve grown a lot despite the family I’ve come from. Gone to school, have a decent career. As I get closer to 30 think I’d like to have kids. But then I look around me and see all the women I know who are no longer with the fathers of their children and struggling. Some make co-parenting work but it truly comes at a cost. My main concern about having kids is that the dad would just up and leave me one day. To me, the reality seems so possible. So many women I know started off with seemingly great guys but down the line break ups happen. I know of some dads who pay child support. But then I hear about stories where it’s months and years and backed up child support. Then it’s a lot of baby daddy drama on Facebook. My biggest fear is getting serious with someone, being abandoned and being left to raise kids on my own.