Effective communication

I confess that I’m amazed at how many adults have still not learned that shouting or saying abusive and mean things is never going to work if you actually want to communicate with another person. I get that we all get frustrated and angry at times. What I don’t get is that so many people don’t seem to have ANY filter! Grow up people! It’s never okay to just let loose on someone, even if you’re really angry and you have lots of mean things in your head that you could say. Even if they’re saying mean things to you. True maturity means that you have the ability to keep some things to yourself. If you’re angry just walk away before you unleash the demons in your head.

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lack of communication

Nov 11, 2018 at 11:08am

maturity is reporting a person and not keeping it to yourself. doing nothing.. saying nothing.. expect no progress. be vocal and attention is brought to where it is needed. turn a blind eye shows immaturity in some cases.

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Yes

Nov 11, 2018 at 3:01pm

You are right. It is all about the other person's issues. I agree with the other post above, it needs to be addressed. In a way you think is safe. I have no tolerance for bullies or gossips or the behaviour you described. If you feel threatened and this is on-going, involve the police or lawyer.

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Yes

Nov 11, 2018 at 3:01pm

You are right. It is all about the other person's issues. I agree with the other post above, it needs to be addressed. In a way you think is safe. I have no tolerance for bullies or gossips or the behaviour you described. If you feel threatened and this is on-going, involve the police or lawyer.

@lack

Nov 11, 2018 at 4:26pm

You’re assuming that I’m talking about some kind of legal situation or something? I’m talking about interpersonal relationships, not harassment or anything like that. Sheesh.

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Somewhat disagree

Nov 11, 2018 at 5:50pm

Random rants are not mature...agreed. Holding it in? No, disagree. Repression does not make a situation better. Tact and timing help, but holding back on opinions and points of view to avoid making waves? I have yet to see any situation where this tactic was effective. Instead, what I saw was further anger, in part due to not being told when the incident first occurred so resentment actually built. And how is the person supposed to learn when the distance between the offense and the response is so great? So, no, do not agree with your logic. From observation and experience, that is where this comes from.

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Exactly

Nov 11, 2018 at 10:11pm

That’s what’s wrong with the world these days. Some people are just passive aggressive.

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Op

Nov 12, 2018 at 7:28am

I didn’t say that you shouldn’t voice an opinion. I said that it’s never okay to lash out at someone you’re upset with by saying mean things, such as personal attacks. Holding it in doesn’t have to mean that you can’t respectfully express yourself, it just means that you refrain from calling them names or attacking their appearance or otherwise saying mean things. Have a filter on your mouth for God’s sake, and stop yelling!

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