It finally happened

Been messaging with this guy for years. There was a chance to meet up face to face, with me flying to his city. He declined meeting up. So it really is true, and it is disappointing: there is no point with social media, because the end goal is not meeting up. The goal is to just type and like and emoji on and stare at your phone. There is no point anymore in social media for me. If we are not going to meet up face to face and bond, what is the fucking point? I’m done. I give up. White flag. Social media dies today for me. I’ve read about how this all happens to people, and yup, it happened to me today. I’m done looking at people’s lives, dogs, kids, pizza, beer, vacation pictures. It’s meaningless after all. No contact is exactly the point. It’s broadcasting, to no one in particular. A tv station with no audience in mind. I’m unplugging once and for all.


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This is an awesome, well written post

Nov 19, 2018 at 1:32pm

And it really demonstrates the frustration with social media.
For people like the OP and myself face to face interaction is actually a desirable thing.
You know, it's called human interaction/intimacy.
but a huge majority of social media posters want to hide behind their emojis and lead people on.
Good luck to you, wise decision!


Nov 19, 2018 at 7:07pm

If you want to meet, why message for years?


Nov 19, 2018 at 9:07pm

Wouldn’t it make more sense to actually give up on social media instead of posting “I’m gonna quit you, social media!” on an online forum? I bet you won’t actually quit anything.


Nov 19, 2018 at 9:57pm

I don't befriend random people who live in other cities on social media. I'm connected to family, friends, and colleagues, and social media is just an extension of our real-life relationships. I also occasionally interact with strangers such as on here, but I don't have any expectation of becoming friends with or meeting them in person. In particular, some people follow public personalities, and enjoy getting a glimpse of their personal life. So, not everyone use social media to find new friends. That's not "the point."

Maybe you've been having romantic fantasies about this person, that's why you're so disappointed. Maybe this person realizes this, and wants to send a message that they're not interested? Or maybe they're insecure and afraid you'd be disappointed so they prefer to keep the status quo, like how some people don't want to date because it might ruin their friendship. There are many possible explanations as to why they don't want to meet but it's clear that they're not as much into the "friendship" as you appear to be.

Nice post

Nov 20, 2018 at 2:05pm

Why are we looking at people’s dogs, kids and food?! I being in my 20’s do not have fb or Instagram. Why is it so important to get “likes” or comments on meaningless day to day activities, I refuse to get on these sites. I think it’s lame and I don’t want to see fake photoshopped pictures and what someone ate. I think I will just stay a mystery.

One Bad Apple

Nov 20, 2018 at 3:59pm

Don't spoil the whole bunch, girl.

Listen to Donny Osmond. He speaketh the truth. You had ONE loser flake weenie -- is that a fair representative of an entire gender?

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Nov 20, 2018 at 6:23pm

I’ve quit everything for same reasons as you. The friendships you foster will now be the ones you *choose* to invest in. And they’re great, because you have no idea what’s going on in their lives and vice versa, so you actually connect when you see each other. It was a hard few months at first reaching out to people I wanted to stay in contact with, but I can say with the utmost certainty that going off social media has enriched all of my friendships. I wish you the same, and hope that you see this all as an eventual positive :D

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@Nice post

Nov 20, 2018 at 11:19pm

Why do people have friends? Why do they share about their family, pets and everyday lives? Why do they compliment each other, and give nice feedback? Must be total mystery to you! If you're assuming that everyone on social media is narcissistic and shallow, maybe you're projecting or you're so arrogant as to think you're superior to all these millions of people all over the world that you paint with the same brush. Yes, I judge you too.

Oh my gawd!

Nov 21, 2018 at 1:59am

I saw Donny at a restaurant once. Another time wearing my dad's fedora I caught Frank Zappa's eye at a concert. Pretty neat huh?!

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Nov 21, 2018 at 4:50pm

Years ago a woman from England contacted me on a dating site and we started messaging each other. She was moving to Vancouver in a couple months and seemed really into me. So we messaged each other a lot until she got to Vancouver. We met once when she got here and she changed her tune, said we should be "just friends". I saw her again a couple weeks later with a date. I guess she was messaging a couple guys for her potential Vancouver boyfriend and picked someone else. I wish she would of told me that she was doing some kind of online bachelorette thing because I wouldn't have wasted my time messaging her.

My guess is the guy you're messaging has some potential girlfriend living in town that he wants to put his energy into and thinks he can string you along and go after you once his other options dry out.

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