After 10 yrs

You walked in to my workplace. I was working. Instant chemistry between you and i. I feel sorry for your girlfriend on 10 years is now your ex. That must have hurt hearing hes leaving you for me. you probably did nothing wrong-- but I came into his picture. Sorry.

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Illiterate and arrogant

Dec 13, 2018 at 9:57am

What a charming combination! You know that there will be a new someone who comes into his picture in a few years right? Have fun :-)

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And as long as you obtain that mentality

Dec 13, 2018 at 10:47am

You will always be a loser.

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Just you wait

Dec 13, 2018 at 11:46am

A colleague of mine met his wife when they were both with others. Both of them cheated. Well guess what? He ended up cheating on his wife. So you might feel smug that you are with this guy now. But history repeats itself. Just wait until another new colleague steps into your or his workplace. Watch the chemistry fly again!

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Silly downvotes

Dec 13, 2018 at 1:18pm

OP has nothing to apologize for. He is not property. He's a free agent. We all are.
She had the decency to offer solace to the ex. The rest of you downvoted should seek therapy and stop passing judgement.
You have no idea what caused the breakup but when it happens it's usually the issues of the couple and time revealing an ill fit. They would have broke up anyway and if the relationship had legs, the OP would have been out of the picture so stop blaming the replacement.

@Silly downvotes

Dec 14, 2018 at 12:43pm

The decent thing to do would be to shut up. The ex doesn't need the pity of someone who just destroyed her life. OP is either trying to assuage her guilt or bragging about being a home-wrecker. Either way, she's got low self-esteem to be settling for 2nd hand used goods. Hope she's prepared when he leave her for the next shiny object.
I feel sorry for you too, OP.

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@@Silly

Dec 14, 2018 at 8:04pm

You must be one of the people who had love "stolen" from you...you know, the LOSER.
I don't take advice from losers.
There is no pity, just rational support. People like you have this sophomoric attitude on coupledom, rooted in the kind of tradition where people were property, not partners. Well, times have changed. We (well, not you) are evolved to understand that nobody belongs to anyone, that commitments can and do fail and they can only last as long as both desire it so, not until death do us part.
OP could have bragged. She instead spelled out the circumstance, voiced some empathy and a polite word of apology, far better than what others would do. The only one seeing...and projecting...bragging and guilt is you and that perception you defend tells us more about the kind of person you are than anything else.
With that, I could see how anyone would quietly dump you while finding a more suitable replacement, especially given how you find it so easy to demonstrate bitterness and passing judgment like you do here.
And how "nice" are you to reduce the male to being second-hand? Is this how you view people? Is this how you labeled your ex? And, BTW, you're so fresh off the vine? Never been touched? Or are you, with experience under your belt, now "used goods"...that is, second-hand? Should we view you that way too?
And did it occur to you that he might actually have found the right person and they are now happily together? Or does that possibility get under your skin because nothing would further erode your self-esteem than to know the guy who left you is infinitely happier since they left you and this posting reminds you of that prospect?
Yeah, I'm right as rain, and that's why you and every down voter are so vocal. The problem isn't the OP. The problem isn't the guy. It's people like you who are so full of themselves to compensate for poor self-esteem that you can't see how you were an integral part of the problem due to unhealthy actions and reactions within a relationship; in your case I'll guess it's the largest part.
Get over it. Grow up. Learn from it so you can fare better the next time. And stop being such a sore loser.

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@ @@Silly

Dec 15, 2018 at 11:57am

Wow. Someone is triggered. You should consider anger management class, honey. And also stop sleeping with married/attached men, and get angry when people disapprove of you.

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