How I felt about my mom, she controlled me and I had a fear of her that as an adult it was so hard to make decisions....work hard, save all your money and move out for your own mental health and freedom....I’m 47 and have crazy flashbacks that really hurt my soul.

LOL I got thrown out, aged 17, so my dad could install his new wife/whore.

Unfortunately he lived many years after. Dead now, and have never missed him for even a second.

one of the criteria that serial killers possess.

Boo hoo. Seventeen? I left home on my own volition at 15. But, unlike you, I loved and respected my parents. I decided to try my luck on my own and I succeeded. At 17, you are pretty much an adult. Many young men go to war at that age, so boo hoo to you, pansy ass.

You show great disrespect for your father. His woman was his business, not yours.

You sound weak. At 47, if you are still fantasising about your childhood, you, clearly, never grew up. Grow a pair or, if female, put on your big girl pants.

I never had a home. couch surfed at friends. consider yourself having a roof over your head lucky.. I had to sleep on benches

Whats with all the down votes! Wtf losers

If you’re still living at home and talking about how much you hate your father, you’re probably really young. At least I hope so, because an attitude like that from an adult would indicate that some serious growing up is in order. Until you have the maturity to grasp the concept that parents are just human beings like you, with their own family background and experience, you will not be able to see that your own behaviour and response to life situations affects the family dynamic as well. I left home at 17 and supported myself on my own ever since. By the age of 30 I had 4 kids and worked full time in a successful career. My relationship with my parents changed dramatically when I had my own family, because only then can one truly comprehend just how hard it is raising children. Think long and hard about what you’re saying and try to see things from his perspective before you decide to write off your own father.

When you have childhood trauma...that you don’t remember and when you have children of your own, some people get flashbacks of their own childhood.....so fuck you if you don’t have empathy. It’s real, it happened and if I had someone that cared, that help guide me sooner in life....it would have meant the world to me. When a child is sheltered, not allowed to do anything, raised with fear, it’s very hard as a young adult to make decisions. When a parent breaks you to the core....you’re pretty much a damaged adult, I did make strides in life dont get me wrong, but it affects me...

All of the people downvoting you have no idea how much damage abusive mothers do, and the secret is that all mothers are sort of abusive, most of what we call "mothering" is an abusive denial of the child's agency, but at least in some cases the mother denies the child's agency to get it to eat vegetables, to do well at school, to thrive and to succeed.

Imagine that same level of denial of agency weren't applied to getting the child to "do the right thing" concerning exercise, eating well, doing well at life, but merely to provide a "help" to the woman. Like, in my case my mother drove away my father because he wasn't "helpful" enough, then proceeded to treat myself and my sibling, at 6 and 4 year old respectively, like it was time for us to "help her out."

Nobody can with a straight face say we talk about maternal inadequacy in our society---we don't. Telling people they're weak because they had parents who abused them, that's all you get.

Oh, and let's not forget that since the late 80s/early 90s, these terrible single mothers have been able to get their kids diagnosed as "mentally ill"---they couldn't do that to their husbands, funny isn't it how you have a single, mentally ill woman and all of her kids are mentally ill, but her husband left w/o getting a mental health diagnosis?