Sad dater

posted December 8th, 2018 at 1:52 PM

I haven't dated in years but would really like to. But...I am not sure I am capable of being cheerful and happy and charming right now. I have some challenges in my life now, including just getting laid off and some serious family health issues. I am dealing with it ok, but I'm not exactly in the happiest of moods these days. I feel like no one would want to be around me. I'm not mean or grumpy or anything, just a little sad and uncertain much of the time. I would like to try and meet people, but I can't pretend to be in a great place right now. I worry people will feel that and not want to be around me. No one wants to date a sad guy, right? As the song says girls just wanna have fun.

7 Comments

Yup, me too

Dec 8, 2018 at 10:22pm

I’m dealing with so many life crises right now that even though I’m lonely (one of the crises was a traumatic breakup), I’m not wanting to inflict myself on anyone else. I’m even keeping away from most of my friends because the only news I have to talk about is bad, so it’s better to just weather this storm season by myself, and hope that it’s going to pass sooner than later.

Actually

Dec 8, 2018 at 10:43pm

That's not always true. I once fell in love with a guy who had just lost his dad. I was also struggling with personal issues, and didn't feel like I could relate to anyone. But I immediately felt a connection with him. He was vulnerable, and I just felt really close to him.

Sad Girl

Dec 8, 2018 at 11:32pm

I wouldn't mind a sad guy, as long as he's a good guy. Be honest and kind, try not to be discouraged.

Who says you have to date right now?

Dec 9, 2018 at 1:16am

If you’re dealing with stuff and feelings of your own, get on with that before adding in dating. If you’re feeling like you’re sad and uncertain, figure that out before trying to bring someone into your life.

Date with Destiny

Dec 9, 2018 at 4:27am

Coming up. Sad and sorry. No one to tell but my straightforward frenemy...

I don't know...

Dec 9, 2018 at 11:49am

I think there's some girls out there too with the same vibe. Why not try dating another person who's just doing their best and trying to get along in a kinda-harsh city, who's also not in a great place but is still a catch. If we all waited until we're perfect to date we'd never date. Put something out there.