I’m beyond tired of being accused of judging someone when the person doing the judging isn’t me, it’s them! Just because you’re insecure about your own life, past or current choices, or appearance doesn’t mean that I am judging you! Stop apologizing every time I visit your house because you think I’m judging you for how it looks. I’m not. I could care less about your damned house or what you look like or basically anything else that you’re feeling insecure about. I love YOU. I only care that you’re happy with your life. What I choose to do in my own life has nothing to do with anyone else but me! I’m not interested in competing with you or anyone else. I truly could care less, because I’m just being the best me that I can be, and I don’t have the energy to worry about whether I’m “better” or worse than others. Remember that poem Desiderata? “Do not compare yourself to others, or you may become vain or bitter”. Exactly. Now, can we please just put all this insanity aside and get back to being family?