A woman had sex with me without my consent

I know it seems unlikely, if not impossible. But, if I was a woman, I think it would more likely be believed. A long term relationship had recently ended. I was cuddling, more than once, with someone new. But it was clearly understood that I did not want to do more, at that time. Okay, so cuddling without clothes poses risks, but I didn't see how anything like intercourse could happen without my consent. But it did. She moved so quickly and took me inside her. I was surprised. I froze. It happened. After, I remember saying, "I guess I've really been unfaithful to (the ex), now." She smiled and said, "Yes. You have". She seemed very satisfied with herself.

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Wow

Dec 3, 2018 at 10:06am

What an ignorant thing to do. I guess what I’d like to know is how you felt about it though. You’ve said what happened but nothing about the aftermath.

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MeToo hypocracy

Dec 3, 2018 at 10:48am

I'll bet a lot of men, if they scrutinize their sexual history will find that they have been victims of sexual assault by women. Having their asses groped or women not respecting the old 'no means no' statute. Men, however, have nothing to gain by making a Federal case about these assaults, and will be ridiculed by Law enforcement, victim shaming is the normal course of action.

AFC

Dec 3, 2018 at 12:22pm

I wish I had your problem. I can never even get a woman's attention (and I mean the type where they don't turn their noses up at me), let alone get them to cuddle with me, naked or not.

It's humble brag posts like this that make me sad as I am reminded of how incapable I am at meeting women. I wish I wasn’t such a failure at masculinity, and at living. Sigh.

#Metoo

Dec 3, 2018 at 1:23pm

I was pressured into having sex with a woman once. I just wasn't into her. She even did the "you're not a f#g are you?" Seriously, she said that. She told me how fit she became to make herself more attractive for me. It was just so important to her I broke down and slept with her. I finally grew so tired of her. I was pushed over the edge and I told her how I really felt and she was gone. I don't feel like a victim, that would be a overreaction. It just a sh!tty experience. It was just so f#cking annoying.

I wonder how many men have been pressured into sex? Our culture still very much has a double standard on this subject. Men are told to get as much as we can and there must be something wrong with us if we don't want to sleep with a woman we have absolutely no interest in or even like as a human being.

Rape isn't about...

Dec 3, 2018 at 2:34pm

... Sex. It is about power. Women just play different kinds of power games. You were raped for sure.

Awful

Dec 3, 2018 at 5:31pm

Sorry you were hurt and abused. Not ok.

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@AFC

Dec 4, 2018 at 1:06am

Dating doesn't come naturally to some people. It takes practice. Also, what kind of women are you trying to attract? I wouldn't be surprised if there were women who would be into you but you just never noticed them. Some women never get approached. Try to meet women in cooking classes, dance classes, etc. You'll get the chance to get to know them in a non-stressful environment. Try to be friends first. If you two have things in common and get along well, then you can ask if she's interested in going out. You have to be proactive and try different things. You probably won't succeed right away but eventually you'll meet someone.

Anonymous

Dec 4, 2018 at 8:09am

Buddy, you were naked with another woman. Don’t you think that’s considered unfaithful? Penetration doesn’t make it official...

This is...

Dec 4, 2018 at 8:43am

... probably a troll. If a guy initiates "naked cuddling" with a girl and gets upset that he gets lucky, he's just...not right in the head, as Hank Hill would say: "the boy ain't right."

This sound of "respect my boundaries!" game is for women, because they can have babies and 9 months-18 years of trouble if they get pregnant. It's not the same for a guy, except maybe legally speaking.

We...

Dec 4, 2018 at 9:07am

should start a MenToo movement.

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