Dating app hatred

posted January 13th, 2019 at 4:47 PM

I must confess, I don't really get why so many people hate on dating apps so much, saying it's just for hookups, real people aren't on there, etc. I met my last boyfriend on one, and he certainly wasn't just looking for a hookup. I've gone on plenty of dates with guys who were looking for girlfriends (we didn't mesh, no harm). Five or six of my friends are in relationships with people they met on apps. It's so hard to meet people these days, and apps make that easy. You chat with someone, see if you mesh, move on when it's time. Sure, meeting people in person is great, but not everyone has wide enough social circles or have lives that are free enough of obligation to take on a new hobby, so sometimes apps are just where you end up. Despite where apps came fun, they're not just for hookups and haven't been largely hook-up focused many years (which isn't to say some people don't want hookups, obviously, but that's definitely not all people are looking for).

5 Comments

I don't hate them

Jan 13, 2019 at 11:11pm

But I wouldn't use them myself. I don't like the concept of "shopping" for a relationship although I admit that it's pragmatic and efficient for some people. I'd be embarrassed if anybody finds me there, and if I found someone I like was on a dating app, I'd be turned off. But I wouldn't mind if my friends or anybody I know used them. I just prefer to meet people in person. It's more romantic that way too. I do meet a fair amount of people on a daily basis. I find looking for people, contacting them, then going on dates a time-consuming and frustrating process. It's more natural to meet in a specific context, then getting to know each other over time. Mutual attraction and connection can be quickly established as well as compatibility, life goals, values, etc. No time wasted on weeding out bad matches. Dating or meeting someone isn't a priority for me though. I have no problem with being alone.

@OP

Jan 14, 2019 at 10:21am

Can you please post a "how to" guide or something?
It's tiring to read on here-and all over- that there are no men in Vancouver,how women have lived here for x years and never met any men at all,etc etc.