If you want to find out what kind of person someone is, ask them if there’s anything in their past that they regret. One of the red flags I ignored with my ex happened during a conversation about regrets. I told him that I rarely do the woulda-coulda-shoulda thing, but if I could do some things over again it would have to do with people and relationships; not saying something that hurt someone, etc. His response was all about money. At the time it gave me a chill. I even asked him if he ever regretted the way he treated any of the women in his past (too many to count), and he looked so confused like it had never occurred to him, even though he’d told me several stories about things he’d done that were obviously nasty. As it turned out I was right to have that chill, because when we broke up the only thing that he was upset about was money. Not one word about hurt or any emotions except anger. So pay attention to those kinds of warning signs, because they will illuminate a person’s true feelings.