Leave me alone

I have no interest in having children. I don’t want kids. It’s just not within my hearts desire. I don’t hate children. I’m just not interested in being a parent, that’s all. But what really bothers me is when people ask, and I say no because all they do is criticize me for it, as if I’m some horrible selfish person. Mind your own business and worry about your own lives.

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Amen

Jan 21, 2019 at 1:48pm

Horribly rude question. Not everyone can have kids. Not everyone has the chance to either. Nothing about "Choice". Every woman has her own journey. Not to be judged by others. My children died, so it is especially cruel to deal with all the comments for that. Comments on weight gain/loss etc. How my life is so much easier not having kids. LOL. Coming from women whose children do all the housework, shopping and provide emotional support.

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Reverse feeling

Jan 21, 2019 at 1:55pm

I want to have children. Please stop telling me I am ruining the earth's resources.

Kudos

Jan 21, 2019 at 2:36pm

Good for you, on all levels.
If people put more effort to fixing their own sh*t and not to meddling in others' lives, we'd all be happier, healthier and more successful. Also more interesting and sophisticated, and less nosy, judgemental and resentful.
The irony of me posting that (with only a tinge of irony and sarcasm) on an anonymous forum is absolutely brilliant, especially on a Monday.

I've never had an interest, either, and dudes get lots of grief for that, maybe more.

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I feel you

Jan 21, 2019 at 3:29pm

I recently told my sister, brother-in-law, and a couple close friends that I may not want children of my own. And each of them have proceeded to list all the reasons I will regret that decision.

I don't understand why people feel the need to pressure others (who aren't interested) to have children. Shouldn't we as a society hope that only those who actually want children and have the ability to care for them to take that responsibility? It truly boggles my mind.

In my opinion, it's way more selfish to have children just because it's the "next step", to fill a void, or to have someone to call your own.

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YESSSSS

Jan 21, 2019 at 4:51pm

Thank you. Same boat.

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Anonymous

Jan 21, 2019 at 6:20pm

Misery loves company, they want you to join the club of birthing trama, worry, anxiety and sleep deprivation.
No thanks.

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Anonymous

Jan 21, 2019 at 7:54pm

Even harder dating as a childfree woman looking for someone that doesn't want kids or has them. Well guess what guys, I don't want kids because it's the women that do all the bloody work with child rearing, the household, and have a career while men complain about their partners. No thanks! Also, health reasons.... I don't hate kids either.

Help your partners out with child rearing, cooking, and cleaning so it's more equitable and your relationship will be better for it for those with kids.

I don't ask anyone about having kids or not as it's a personal question, and intimate. If someone chooses to share, that's fine, but I won't ask. Also, it's hard being left out as most people have kids and talk about them which sucks....you are still a person, not just a parent.

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Anonymous

Jan 21, 2019 at 8:48pm

Books have been written on the subject, Regretting Motherhood: A Study. No Kids: 40 Good Reasons Not to Have Children. This one's down your ally: The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World.

No Kids was interesting because the French woman who wrote it had 2 children. Only the French could be so rude.

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Im a

Jan 21, 2019 at 8:52pm

27yo guy with a lovely 1.5 yo son. Never felt myself happier in my life. Priorities I guess

Childfree

Jan 21, 2019 at 9:16pm

With everything that is going on in the world nowadays, I do not find a truly selfless reason to bring another human being here.
Rather than finding childfree people selfish, I think the opposite is true.

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