Sometimes it comes down to a decision between having self respect or staying with someone you love. Anyone who’s ever had to make that choice knows how heartbreaking it can be. Just because we decide in favour of self respect doesn’t mean that we don’t suffer the grief of missing someone and the loss of our dreams for the future. For anyone who knows someone who has recently had to make such a difficult decision, please remember that telling them to just move on and get over it immediately isn’t remotely helpful. Don’t assume that they’re not hurting just because it was their decision to end things. The price of self respect can be very, very high.