Dead beat parents

posted February 15th, 2019 at 11:08 PM

My parents got together and married pretty young, didn’t know themselves, didn’t know each other and had several kids in fast succession. They got divorced, and long story short both my parents were either abusive or neglectful. All my siblings and I were pretty much left to fend for ourselves as older teens. All my siblings and I left the nest super early and have had to put ourselves through post secondary without a dime of support from our parents. I’m sorry, but if you can’t financially plan or contribute anything to your child’s education you are doing them a huge disservice. I know there are going to be responses about how I am ungrateful for being alive; but I’m tired of pretending that having to raise myself hasn’t been a struggle and a half. Don’t have kids unless you can actually contribute some material resources to their goals. I can’t afford kids, so I don’t have them.

5 Comments

Anonymous

Feb 16, 2019 at 2:55pm

My mum had a lot of hardships, and couldn't contribute to my education. I don't resent her for it, but I'm on the same page as you - don't have kids if you aren't prepared to pay for them. I moved out when I was 18 and paid for everything from then on. It's hard and shitty and no one should have to go through that. And no, it doesn't necessarily teach you financial responsibility - it's just as likely to ruin you.

THANK YOU!

Feb 16, 2019 at 5:36pm

Wonderful! I totally agree! I also loath people it when people with ZERO life experience bring new people into this world. WHY? Why have kids just to have kids if you have nothing to teach them. My parents should not have had me, they had no money, and didn't really want one. What an absolute waste of their lives.

Ingrateful Child

Feb 16, 2019 at 8:59pm

Look here kid, my parents didn't pay my way, their parents didn't pay their way, and their parents didn't pay their way before them either.. and so on. Why should the present generation be entitled where no previous generation has been entitled before them? Once you're an adult, it's your responsibility to act like an adult and pay your own fucking way through life, just like everyone else has before you! Grow up!

Anonymous

Feb 17, 2019 at 3:07am

Both of my parents were money loving assholes from Hell. Abusive and manipulating to their children, and both now happily dead.

@Ingrateful Child

Feb 17, 2019 at 11:26pm

OP talked about how their parents not only had them super young, but were also abusive and neglectful, leading to the kids leaving the nest before they should have. Get some reading comprehension before racing to the judgment, you spiteful moron. People should not have children they are not ready for, nor willing to parent!