This has to be the most overused word right now. Suddenly we’re all being encouraged to “eliminate” anyone in our life that doesn’t fit perfectly. Countless people have told me that they’ve eliminated former good friends and also close family members like parents and siblings. They’re all claiming that the people they eliminated were toxic. Imho, the only time that you can be truly justified in completely cutting off all contact with family members is when they are actually abusing you in a real sense. Not just that you don’t like them, they’re not a perfect parent, they didn’t provide you a perfect childhood, your sibling criticizes you, blah, blah, blah. I hear people telling me their justification for removing people from their lives, and so far I’ve yet to have any of these people talk about serious abuse. Those same people also never seem to comprehend their own role in that relationship. It’s always the other person. I foresee a bleak future for many people who burn the bridges that keep their families and close friends in their lives, because its often those very people that will be there for you when you really need it. I also don’t know why people can’t just distance themselves a bit if someone isn’t enhancing your life or stresses you out. Why do people think that it’s got to be all or nothing? Personally I think it has a lot to do with the snowflake concept. The younger generations have been indoctrinated with this bizarre idea that they have to have perfectly stress-free relationships and if they don’t, then the other person is toxic. After all, they’re all so incredibly special that they deserve nothing but perfection in all things, right? All I have to say in conclusion is good luck with that.
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