I knew a fabulous couple. Married over 20 yrs. Fun, fun, fun. She decided after 20 yrs that he was no longer desireable physically. So, she had an affair, and when the couple went on holiday she dropped it on my pal at dinner that she was leaving.....THAT DAY. No discussion, no counselling, no separation, just a brick between the eyes. He was devastated. She moved in with her old boyfriend who was trying to get out of his relationship. Instant changes.
I want nothing to do with her. Or the new guy. He was fucking my friends wife while she was still married. Nice. Jerk. He broke the guy code. She broke her wedding vows. I lost a fun couple.
Fast forward a year. My pal is remarrying a great gal. He is super happy. The ex wife is still feeling the fallout of her actions. She tries to justify it many ways but the root issue is that she did a really hurtful, self absorbed action and hey....you make your bed, you sleep in it. She has lost friends. Me included. Guys have done this to women for years but two wrongs don’t make a right. It was wrong. I can’t trust her. I hope she will be as happy as her ex husband is going to be. He on the other hand is actually quite lucky. He has class.
I have no poblem with divorce. If it is not working then get out. But...go to counselling, talk it out a lot, and try. Like really, try. If you have given it a good shot, made your spouse aware, and it is not working then separate. No problem. But dropping it like an anvil onto the head sucks. You are a ghost to me.
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