A pattern

Every time my boyfriend spends time with his "friend" (actually his ex, who refuses to meet me, 6 months into our relationship, despite the fact that she dumped him), I pick a fight with him about their "friendship". I don't do it on purpose, but it's definitely a pattern. I'm trying really hard not to start an argument this time, but I really just want to tell him off.

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Why??

Feb 22, 2019 at 12:10pm

He fucking already knows you hate him. I'm sure he's wonder if that was the case for long time. I guess it was in fact mercyfull for you to girl up and finally remove all doubt though.

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Anonymous

Feb 22, 2019 at 2:28pm

He's a player.

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No doubt

Feb 22, 2019 at 2:30pm

If my boyfriend was constantly getting together with an ex girlfriend, I’d be annoyed about that too. Maybe ask him how he’d feel if it was you doing that with an ex boyfriend?

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Well...

Feb 22, 2019 at 2:44pm

If I was him, if I was with you, and if I was still friends with my ex, I would tell her that refusing to meet you is very disrespectful to you, me, and our relationship, and I cannot abide by that. She'd better meet you, and be respectful towards you, or she can go to hell, and I'd never have anything to do with her again. But of course I'm a real man of integrity.

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Yeah..

Feb 22, 2019 at 7:53pm

That is a big red flag, especially if you've never met her. I wouldn't be cool with a gf going and hanging out with her mysterious ex.. that's not being jealous or insecure, that is being realistic.

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Xxx

Feb 22, 2019 at 9:35pm

I never got the whole “being friends with exes” thing. Don’t you have any other friends? Unless you have kids together, exes list being unnecessary drama into the picture.

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Stop trying to be the "cool girlfriend"

Feb 22, 2019 at 11:01pm

Just let him know you're not okay with that. He should listen to your concerns, and do something about them. Why does he need to remain friends with his ex, especially one who doesn't seem to be over him and disrespects you? He seems to care more about her feelings than yours. I would get the f*ck out of there.

Rule #1: don't date anyone who's carrying baggage or prioritizes a female "friend" over you. Just asking for trouble. There are tons of other dudes out there without all this drama. Go get them.

14 2Rating: +12

Uuuuuuugh, I hated this shit when I was younger.

Feb 23, 2019 at 12:16am

In my early 20s I was dating a guy who would hang out with his ex all the time pulling the “best friend” card.

He would cancel plans on me, but later in the week he’d be getting drunk with her on his couch.

Thank fucking god those years are over. My current boyfriend is nothing like this.

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I know this

Feb 23, 2019 at 7:40am

It won't work. Do you also have a friend that you had an intimate past with? My previous gf would also start shit about me hanging out with my friend whom I'd never had romance with meanwhile it was okay for her to spend the weekend with her friend whom she tried to be intimate but it was apparently "weird" and he was "too big" anyways. So yeah, that relationship ended

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I'm a real man of integrity

Feb 23, 2019 at 10:25am

Said no man of integrity ever

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