show your love every day

I lost my wife recently after, 47 years of marriage. She created a loving home, a family and a lifetime of memories. To all the partners out there, love grows, small things count, stop being selfish !!

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Condolences

Feb 14, 2019 at 2:40pm

Condolences on your loss ... Hopefully your tears of grief will bring comfort & the assurances of the song: 'One Day We'll Be Together Again.'

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Feb 14, 2019 at 3:22pm

Sir I somehow know she is closer than you think ;-)

Salacia

Feb 14, 2019 at 6:17pm

Condolences on your loss and thank you for your post. To be with someone for 47 years is an achievement. You both clearly loved the other more than yourself. You must have communicated well and shared your likes and dislikes honestly. You must each have found love in the other's smile and even in frowns. Love deepens as time passes and absolutely the small things count because to be that open to love you also open yourself to being hurt by its absence.

I'm so glad you posted what you did. How people come into relationships and their characteristic stages has changed so much in the last 20 years. It seems more and more that relationships are a disposable commodity. People Tinder to find one another, they Instagram their relationship stages and Facebook their statuses. Love has literally been monitized...and perhaps it's lost its soul in the result.

It's no wonder that we read so many posts on here from disgruntled or disheartened people who find themselves unfulfilled by the "relationships" they develop through apps. It used to be that you would meet someone while socializing with actual people, through your friends or your activities. ie. you met someone while being your actual self and not while trying to live up to some character you've created in a profile designed to garner "likes". Sure you polished up for the first real date, but by and large, you were you. And you made eye contact. And there was a spark or there wasn't. And that grew into a fire or it didn't.

But now it seems relationships are a thing you must have, like the trendy moisturizer, Playstation game or restaurant reservation. A box to tick. And it seems to me like the spontaneity, joyful surprise and mystery have gone out of it for those who find each other on an app. So to your post I would add the following.

Park the fear. Rejection is a part of life. So put the phone down. Go out into the world and make eye contact with a few people. See what happens. You may find you like it.

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