Don’t Personalize

Generally I get along very well with my co-workers. But of all the 20 people that I work with, there are three who are just plain weird. They come off as very cold, stand offish and rude. They’re nice to everyone else except me and only say hello to me if I take initiative. It used to bother me a lot and really affected my work performance, so then I decided to go and seek counseling. My counsellor that I spoke with gave me the best advice on how to deal with workplace culture. Don’t personalize. You can’t get everyone to like you and you don’t own their problems. The Workplace is like a family and the ones whom aren’t your favorites are like weird cousins. I keep in mind that I’m getting paid to do my job, then clock out and go home. You’re not here to win friends over, but let’s say if you drawn to certain people and happen to become close friends with someone at work, then that’s a bonus. But at the end of the day, the job is what matters. I just go in and do my job, live and let live.

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Quentin

Mar 18, 2019 at 11:40am

I'm friendly with everyone.Fuck people who don't like you even if you make an effort they're immature babies with social problems.

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Should have been obvious

Mar 18, 2019 at 1:14pm

Also, don't date your colleagues. When you break up, it will just be a nightmare.

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Words well spoken

Mar 18, 2019 at 1:38pm

I second that one! Forget about all the ungrateful nimrods. They’ll fizzle out. Just appreciate the good folks.

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Co-workers

Mar 18, 2019 at 1:58pm

They're not family and close friends because at the end of the day they can throw you under the bus. Please make your friendships away from the workplace!

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If your family

Mar 18, 2019 at 4:06pm

-steals your ideas
-does not invite you to work social gatherings
-doesn’t talk to you because you’re low on the totem pole
then sure, work is family. I find it laughable that anyone would consider their workplace their family.

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Exactly what I needed to hear!

Mar 18, 2019 at 5:21pm

I'm dealing with a co-worker who basically ignores any pleasantly I throw her way - any polite conversation. I've basically just started not initiating, but it's awkward in meetings when she effectively orients away from me and ignores everything I say. What did I do to you, girl? It's honestly like dealing with a mean-girl in girl. It brings me back to the playground when people didn't like me because I wasn't pretty enough.

So THANK YOU.

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Live and learn

Mar 18, 2019 at 6:12pm

This is something everyone learns eventually (hopefully). It’s just work. Something you have to tolerate until your real life takes place before and after.

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What if

Mar 19, 2019 at 8:43am

It's a roommate?

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Anonymous

Mar 19, 2019 at 9:06pm

sorta agree except how about not treating ur workplace like family? they aren't. u're there to do a job and get paid.

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