In love with my best friend but he doesn't know

I am in love with my best friend. I only started to see them romantically in the last year. But now I cant stop wanting to be my best friends girlfriend. I see him date a lot of girlfriends. But none have been serious. I started to see him in a different light when I had been cheated on with the boyfriend I was dating at the time. I was so hard but my best friend made me feel so comfortable and helped me get through that depressed mood I was having when my boyfriend had cheated on me. Is it werid that I want my best friend now. He is nice, funny, athletic, open minded and spontaneous. But he's dating someone right now it's been about a week since he started dating her it normally lasts about a month or so. I feel like I want to tell him I love him but I dont know if he feels the same way. And I don't want to lose him as a friend. What should I do?

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Get in there.

Mar 18, 2019 at 8:51am

Ask how it's going with this one, and mention if it doesn't workout the two of you could try giving it a shot. If you two are already in each other's space a lot, and are enjoying the company, I don't see how it can't work out. If it doesn't work out, I think if you really still want to be friends, you are going to remain friends. I think it would work out, but you need to drop it out there, because you never know, this one maybe the one that actually gets him, but it's only been a week, so the bonding is still in it's initial stages.

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Good question

Mar 18, 2019 at 9:42am

Who knows the answer though, many have tried. I'm sure outcomes must vary. So a better question is I guess, can you keep on feeling the sharpest of sadness watching that happen. Them being with others while you seem to matter less and less?

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You sound really young

Mar 18, 2019 at 11:15am

The fact you’re the girl in the situation tells me you should tell him. I was the girl in those situations and when my guy friends told me how they felt, it wrecked the friendship because I just thought of them as friends. If you think he may have feelings for you then go ahead and tell him but if he doesn’t, beware the consequences.

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That's why

Mar 18, 2019 at 1:34pm

I never date anyone with opposite sex best friends.

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Anonymous

Mar 18, 2019 at 4:29pm

Women's advice to me is to break off communications with people I'm attracted to because pretending to be only interested in them as a friend is a betrayal in their friendship. I don't know, if a woman I thought was only interested in me as a friend told me they were attracted to me I'd be ecstatic.

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Life is short

Mar 20, 2019 at 2:04pm

Tell him

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Become friends again.

Jun 20, 2019 at 5:45pm

I have been trying so hard to get this girl friend of mine to give us a redo. I keep our relationship focused on the friends aspect, for good reason. I believe lovers are almost always much better when they come from an enduring friendship. I can not get past this part of telling her I love her. I do love her yes, I am in love with her yes. When she hears the word love all hell comes calling, and it can be very scary. I can not get enough time to explain my view that we are and have been going through a very difficult period fraught with miss ques and miss deeds. There has been many a misunderstanding also. So for us to try and pick up and move into a romance is surely suicide.

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