OK I confess I did not know

That you could offend someone by offering them your seat on Skytrain. Senior lady walking slowly with a cane, offered my seat and received a shake of the head, a frown and a loud “NO!!” Happened a few times the past several weeks. Won’t happen again, no more polite offers from me.

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Ignore her

Mar 21, 2019 at 4:09pm

Keep offering your seat! She’s not the norm.

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Anonymous

Mar 21, 2019 at 7:18pm

Agree with @Ignore her

Also, how are you offering? Some people are sensitive regarding respect/etc, this doesn't mean you did wrong, but just something to consider. "May I help you?" is a much better place to come from than a "Let me help you!" Was it a "Would you like a seat?" or a "Here have a seat." Though you may have been the most considerate person, then again, please know she's not the norm.

This goes both ways though, to piggy back your rant, I can't stand a handful of people who demand you get up so they can sit. Know the ones? Respect goes both ways. I seem to have to wear a badge that says "invisible disability" or else I'll feel the shame of people's judgement.

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Anonymous

Mar 22, 2019 at 8:14am

I usually just make eye contact and motion like I'm getting up. People shake their head or accept. It's a little less intrusive.

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Only 48

Mar 22, 2019 at 7:07pm

And I am actually flattered when offered a seat! I usually smile, thank them, and then tell them I am okay. However if they stand then I gladly accept..It makes me feel special so please continue young gentlemen... this city needs a little charm these days...

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Wendy Banham

Mar 25, 2019 at 2:30am

Keep offering! It’s still the polite thing to do!

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