Our feelings are supposed to be consistent with our actions. What we say is supposed to be consistent with what we do. When we are unhappy, the body starts to reject and shuts down. Try as you might to keep living life as usual... it won't last. It will show up as depression, or come out as anger, or you will just stop trying. They say that in order for a relationship to thrive, a part of you must die. How big is the part? Is it only 10% of your essence? What if it is 90%? How consistent can you be if you still haven't given up on your dreams? I will settle and be consistent when I have found purpose in life. If I don't find it, I won't settle, and will live a hard and horrible life until I die, but I will take that over the alternative.