Men I don't know

I am tired of men I don't know thinking I need or even want their help because I'm in a wheelchair. If I need your help I'll ask. Stop touching my chair. I'm a sexual abuse/rape survivor, I've been sexually assaulted on transit multiple times by men. As a man you are a threat.

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nicehate

Apr 5, 2019 at 11:28am

Nice stereotyping and hate mongering.

Correction:

Apr 5, 2019 at 12:48pm

As a man, I am perceived as a threat.

Anonymous

Apr 5, 2019 at 12:57pm

It makes me sick that this is getting downvoted, downvoted by ignorant, defensive, self-centered fucks.

I support you and your feelings.

So funny how many angry dudes are on here

Apr 5, 2019 at 2:01pm

There was another post about sorta the same thing "if I am not visibly struggling or asking for help, please don't rush in to help me like I'm some helpless woman who can't carry a plastic chair" and it got downvoted into oblivion!!!! When men rush to help you when you don't need help, its for their own satisfaction. Like they feel like a great dude and hero. And it's not to say they're not great dudes, hey Jim's probably a really sweet guy and thought he was doing a favor. But the moment you say actually its not necessary then you're some evil misandrist bitch. Funny how people complain about "no true confession" yet the moment anyone gives a real confession they're downvoted and relentlessly harassed with bad comments LOL

I support you and your feelings ARE valid.

Samson

Apr 5, 2019 at 2:53pm

Even if you ask most dudes will say..."sorry I'm in a hurry!"...easier to avoid trouble that way.

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Slippery Slope

Apr 5, 2019 at 2:54pm

About 25 years ago I had started high school, there weren't many black people where I grew up. We had only one black kid in the entire school. He was a big kid, and he and his posse would bully me every day for about two years. He'd come up behind me, and smash my head into my locker. He broke my nose. He would throw me into the dumpsters behind the school. He even butted his cigarette out on my skin.
Fast forward some years, and looking out the bus window I saw another black man. Immediately I felt nothing but intense hatred for him. This man, that I didn't know, and had never done me a bit of harm, I just hated.
Right after I felt all this hatred, I realized what I was doing, and what I was becoming. No. No way am I going to be like that. No way am I going to hate people that I don't know, that haven't done me harm, just for the actions of one person that just happened to share the same skin color with them.
This can easily apply to gender as well. Women have always made great friends for me, but as far as lovers go, I've been hurt by pretty much all of them, by using me as a punching bag, or a temporary boost for their ego. But I know, they're not all like that. My friends aren't anyway. I hope you give some benefit of the doubt to people that are quick to show compassion, because such people don't usually fall into the crowd of those that wish to smite you down, or cause you any kind of harm.

@slippery slope

Apr 5, 2019 at 4:56pm

(I'm not the OP)
I can totally see how you could draw that comparison. It would make sense to compare assault when you don't understand the incredible long-standing trauma and pain that comes with sexual assaults.
It absolutely sucks to be physically attacked in any way, however; having your face smashed into a locker is not even remotely comparable to the trauma of having someone inside your body without your permission. And it never will be.
She has every right to be weary of men, especially if she has been harassed on public transit before.
The key is to not take offense when someone says these things. Have some empathy and understand where the distrust comes from. We're not being hysterical or overreacting. This shit happens all the time and it's exhausting to worry about saying NO to a man's face (even for something as seemingly innocent as offering help) because men don't handle rejection from women well in any context.
Perfect evidence of this is how many #notallmen downvotes she's gotten here. Like, it's not a personal attack on you. She just wants to be left the fuck alone. Respect that.

Guess what OP

Apr 5, 2019 at 7:26pm

If you add everything up,you are several THOUSAND times more likely to be hit by a car,get cancer/heart disease/stroke/ influenza/diabetes,fall down your stairs,hit by lightning, commit suicide etc than be hurt by a man.
If you are a lesbian,you are 2.5 times more likely to be beaten by your lesbian partner,than you would a husband.
It's all easily looked up and found to be true,but I'm sure you won't as it doesn't fit your paradigm of man=bad

Oh,and to the other responders calling men "angry dudes": yes,we are angry. Angry for being scapegoated and pilloried by the press,popular culture,and most women as we know the true stats for all the things we are falsely accused of.
And yet you wonder why the majority of men have zero interest in dating and marriage...

@@Slippery Slope

Apr 5, 2019 at 7:29pm

Yes,rape is terrible.
So is working for years and decades,then having the ex wife or girlfriend take all that from you.
The suicide rate for men is 3-5 times that of women....

@@slippery slope

Apr 5, 2019 at 7:44pm

Being weary is one thing. But hate is another. We should all be a little weary. I'm weary of schizophrenics after being stabbed near to death by one in a random attack, but I also had a very good friend with a great heart that was one, but passed away recently.

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